Re: Why can't some people just back off?
Gaia, being a fellow Hijaban myself, I feel your pain. I think you should stop going to the Cafe for a few days...and then return to your routine. When you do return he'll probably ask you why you didn't show-up for a few days and at that point, you give him a cold look and a brief excuse. I think he'll get the message.
And also, if he has the guts to feed you, a hijaban, ice cream, then honey you are defnitely NOT being assertive with him. May be you are just tooo nice. It's time to put your foot down.