Me too. So far i have seen girls that came straight from Pak( not from pind mind u) they get settled here very quickly, learn western life-style fast plus most of them r gr8 cooks n housekeepers( even though they grew up with servants they r good @ it). i don’t think girls from Pak r home breakers. they hav grown-up in joint families and r much more tolerant n used to all the family dramas. they know how to mix up socially and make their own space. they sure r more flexible as i feel it. i always feel i lack these attributes growing up out of pak and so does most of other girls around me…as for chalak its better to be chalaak. straigth forwardness and honesty brings us more tears in our desi culture. this i found out only after marriage.
As for guys, most want that homely type. even if they don’t say it they crave it. they really don’t care abt career women but someone who spoils them, who does all of their work n leave them only for earning money. the other day my hubby and his friend were talking abt Asian ladies and both were showing gr8 interest in chineses n philipino ladies k wo khidmat guzar aur pati-verta hoti hain etc etc. So if some go back and marry there its not surprising.
Why do we raise boys such that they grow up wanting maids for partners? As oppose to actually intellectually stimulating women?
And who says career women don’t work with their husbands well to run a sound household?
God forbid the gadha gets off his arse to do a little work around the house. Is this how we’ve raised our male kids? To not be responsible at all for any mess they create?