Is this the new lifestyle for couples? Couple say it is good for relationships. With so many affairs being exposed does this make sense?
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don't get married?
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To me, open relationships (IF done right) are an expression of security and independence of each partner. Being ok with your partner getting sexually involved with someone else requires you to not see their desire or their body as your own. It requires that you not be possessive in ANY sort of the way.
In a way, it's sort of like a more noble version of love, where your own insecurities don't get in the way of someone else's life; even if it's your partner.
Marriage is socially defined to be the way it is. We also attach a whole lot of expectations to it, because we are weak, and much weaker when alone. We expect to feel protected, even in the most subtle ways, in a relationship (of any kind).
Because we are weak, it is also one of the most difficult things to do. So, VERY few people have the courage to go that route (and I am not talking about mindless whoring around - but then again, what's the problem with that?). I certainly don't have that courage.
Obviously, there are more issues that come up with it; to what extent is the couple open; are they the primary relationship; if so, how is it handled with kids around etc. We don't know the solutions to those issues because most people aren't open. When you take a certain path, you find solutions to it too (if you're willing).
It is also likely that certain life goals are better met with an exclusive relationship, with comparatively few variables. And so a certain lifestyle is preferred over the other. However, the decision lies with the couple.
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WHO?
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^:D
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Because its better to be open minded and open and accepting towards each other than staying closed off
Thats an open marriage right? ;)
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^I've heard of this arrangement. But this is more prevalent among which culture?
Maybe the individuals involved feel that an exclusive commitment makes temptations more enticing...and that greater effort to control oneself puts a greater strain on the marriage....or requires greater effort to make the marriage work??? Who knows?
Or maybe both partners know that they BOTH lack self-restraint.....and they have justified infidelity to themselves with the belief that "Well....so many people cheat on their partners........and it's so common these days. Everyone does it." Or it could be that their justification is that "The other affairs are only having fun and physical pleasure WHEREAS their real and true love is for their spouse."
Or perhaps they have justified it with the belief that "Infidelity is a DECEPTION ONLY if one partner is kept in the dark about it. But if one is HONEST with about the infidelity with their partner....there's no deception....hence it's okay." In this case maybe both partners believe that it "technically" isn't cheating if they're honest it......and since this honesty would lead to NO guilt......the marriage can still work.
Whatever the reason, I personally don't agree with such an arrangement. Moral/religious reasons asides.......imagine bringing home an STD to your spouse.
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o rly
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what is open marriage? is there any close marraige too ?
sickening.
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Also, I wonder if such a lax attitude would transfer over in other responsibilities/commitments in one's life.
Would one move from one job to the next....because they weren't happy with it as opposed to giving it a shot. Could such an attitude weaken a person's tolerance ?
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An open marriage usually implies a certain loss of interest in your partner IMHO.
Obviously, they lack something you need/want and for that you have to step out of the bounds of marriage.
Its risky...because you never know when your partner might actually start to care where and who you are with and also what kind of diseases you might be bringing home.
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Uhh, NO.
Sickening as someone pointed up there.
I think there are such things as "open marriage" even in some Eastern cultures- there may be mistresses that a wife is aware of but simply turns a blind eye. I think in Japanese culture there used to be a "lesser wife" concept. But I don't think in most cases it works both ways.
I think there are such things as "open marriage" even in some Eastern cultures- there may be mistresses that a wife is aware of but simply turns a blind eye. I think in Japanese culture there used to be a "lesser wife" concept. But I don't think in most cases it works both ways.
In ancient Chinese culture, there was the concept of "lesser" wives. And the offspring of these wives were also considered "lesser" especially in the case of daughters. Among the wealthy Chinese, it wasn't uncommon to live with a wife and several concubines under the same roof.
I think a "blind eye" doesn't necessarily indicate agreement or approval of an action. It could also mean that the onlookers don't agree but feel that it's either not their place to say anything....or they feel that it would be futile to bring the issue up.
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In a way, it's sort of like a more noble version of love
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Wow . . .
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hein? open marriage konsi hoti hai? 
It’s when they open the door for each other to let them go out and ‘play’. Since they are bored of each other playing.
It is a fancy way to have ‘freedom’ from each other.
