ok peopel i just wanted to know tht why do old people make a big deal out of little things
ok here is my story this guy came to see me at my uncle house and my grandma and gramdpa live with my uncle soo so tht guy came with his ammi and he hardly saw me i think coz he was shy as everyoen was there anywayz they went than after few days the guy wanted to se me againa as he had some other girls mum calling for the rista so he just wanted to choose the right girl soo this time he came to see me at my house with his ammi he came to my house and this time too he hardly saw me and he didnt even talk to me at all and next day his ammi caleld my home saying to my ammi tht my son and me are fine with ur daughter so she said i wana take this rista futher anywayz when my grandma found about he comiing to see me second time she just startd makign a big issue and she told everyone in my family like my phopoo tai etc tht look she and tht guy talkedd to each other and they got understanding btw them tht is why they took this relationship futher and it didnt made me feel good my grandma is always talkign about islam soo dont she understand islam say a coupel who wana get married can talk to each other if the girl mahram is present well my dad my brothers everyone was there but he hardly saw me i wana know why to people follow their own islam and when it comes about soemthing else they dont follow islam i am since anger and heart broken about my grandama spreading those rummours about me and its just not me whos is let down my my family my dad and mum dont feel good about it and coz of her my anuty from paksitan called and said dont let me talk or meet with tht guy at alll…soo tht got me more angry and upset …i respect my grandma alots and i cant say anything to her and to keep her izzat i am just quiet
wot woulld u girls have done if u were in my position?
I suggest you stay patient, when your grandma runs out of gas she will shut down on her own. If you speak out...it will make matters only worse, since it seems your grandmother is a typical grandma with spreading news like wildfire.
If you guys need time to get to know each other, then you guys are doing the right thing. I suggest you block out your grandmother...or if its impossible to, then speak to your mother and father about this situation and tell them how its bothering you.
If you guys need time to get to know each other, then you guys are doing the right thing. I suggest you block out your grandmother...or if its impossible to, then speak to your mother and father about this situation and tell them how its bothering you.
best of luck, insha'Allah
thanks tht is wot i am doing having patience in me by i cant bear peopel saying stuff about me which are not trueee
well, i guess they are well experienced & they may think that they are right whatever they say...So we shouldn'ts take such kind of things serious. Just keep ignoring is the best idea...... wish you all the bst :)
wait...so your grandma is basically right? you knew the guy before...from what i understand, and so what she's going on about...technically that is right. right?
khumar to have understanding btw someone and u .....uneed to talk to them and me and him didnt talk at alllllll soooooo my grandma is sayingggg tht we talked to each otehr when he came to our home and we got understandig btw us tht is why our rista got pakka aur aisa kuch nahin huwa i didnt talk to him and according to islam i could have talk to him coz islam say if u gonna marry someone u can talk to them about anything but in front of ur mahram soo but we didnt talk at alllll
yeh it took 2 yrs coz his ammi wasnt here and he was still completeing his education and and i liked him only i dont know about him liking me ( i am just guessing he liked me tht is why he told his mum about me and she came to see me) and he said to his ammi tell me tht i liked her coz of her hijab
SAMMMEEEE SITAUTION HERE GIRRRL…
wen my rishta came…my ‘nana’ started making assumptions that i meet him outside the family and we both talk and stuff thats y the rishta came for me coz i called for it…he sed loudly…‘agur luki raazi tau humse kaun pooche’……
oh the nerrrvveeee…
my parents got upset coz rumors pheal rahe thei ke meri pusund hei aur mein ne lurke ko bulaya hei ke upne parents ko leke aao……Y Y Y Y WHY O WHY
logon ke under tau jaise thund pe jaati hei wen they see sumone’s life ruined i tell ya…
i'm still unclear. excuse me for my befuddled brain.
so, did you guys know each otehr from before? like college or something?
or was it this way: some random aunty and uncle come to your house for a rishta. they look you over, you and the random guy talk to each other. they go away. then 2 years later the same random aunty uncle with their son come back, saying that the guy likes you...and wants to marry you? is that what happened?
so, did you guys know each otehr from before? like college or something?
or was it this way: some random aunty and uncle come to your house for a rishta. they look you over, you and the random guy talk to each other. they go away. then 2 years later the same random aunty uncle with their son come back, saying that the guy likes you...and wants to marry you? is that what happened?
dont confusss urself and help me with the question i asked it would be nice of u:)
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