Why is it just ME ME ME everywhere? and whats with the blunt/no manners approach? Why can’t people for once think about others for a change? Kuch kehnay ya karnay say pehlay yeh kyun nahin sochtay kay doosra kiya sochay ga ya feel karay ga.
I was at a party where a 25 yr. old married girl actually told the other females that you are so boring, all that you talk about is kids … and then promptly accessed her iphone and said i’ll browse Facebook (loudly)… I was shocked… WTH!!! and she was one of the hostesses, it was her home. What is this world coming to??
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oh wow.
desi girls need an attitude make-over.
this is a big reason i dont go to dawats anymore. people are very rude, and its like they are doing you an ehsaaan by even gracing you with their presence. i can go on and on about rudeness stories of desi girls here.
yikes, im a 25 year old married girl with no children and i would NEVER EVER say something so rude. wat an embarassment to my age group…so sorry u had to go through that…its extremely rude and batamiz of her to say that…u shud of said to her that in a couple of years she’ll be one of those women too who only talk about kids, hehehe… nah, just kidding, these kind of ppl are not worth getting into a debate with.
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This makes for a great thread. I have so many rude-girls-at-a-party wali stories. It's like their parents spend all their time flaunting wealth at dawats but don't take out the time to teach their kids some manners.
Everybody's so concerned with their lives, their problems, their joys, their way of doing things that they forget that they occupy the planet with billions of others each with their own unique set of circumstances. And in that forgetting, out go the consideration and manners...which eventually leads to so many problems you see today...families breaking up, friendships breaking up - heck, entire communities breaking up. It's so sad, especially when even a little bit of tolerance and kindness could prevent most of it.
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Girls will remain girls. guys dont do that quite often. girls do everything in extream. Dosti ho gee tu 10000s logoon k beech main cheeks per kisses hoon gai nahee ho ge tu "I'll browse facebook on my mobile" walee situation ho gee :)
well, you are noting what you saw, and there can be more to the story.
I suppose other ladies were talking about kids cuz they are married..(unless things have changed in desi circles in VA)
so her outburst is rude, regardless of the reason
..however we dont know the reason
it could be because she was bored and whatever and lashed out improperly as you stated
or it could be that other ladies in the group there were saying things that were, or perceived be her to be dismissing her because she is unmarried..I mean unless we can vouch that all the other ladies attending there were angels and would never make comments that will be designed to irk someone, this possibility can not be dismissed and could be a possibility.
lastly, it comes down to courtesy of all involved, maybe its a guy thing that chicas need to learn, in our gatherings, if there is a guy who is new, or maybe does not share the interest that other guys have there whether by career, sports whatever…people will step back and try to include the person and stop being fixated on a topic that not everyone is into,
the same is seen when non pakistani ppl are at an event, guys would switch to english or there may be different conversations going on, while my observations in general is that non desi girls usually dont get included.
so..the question remains, why are people so selfish and rude…but my gut feel is that she was not the only one who was selfish or rude at that event.
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Actually they were involving her again and again, but she was not responding too much.... they even talked about bollywood actors :p , movies, etc and Pakistani politics even. In any case, it was pretty rude... and they were just generally talkign about someone's baby shower and not specifically talking about kids even.
Khair, I have been observing people at different gatherings and sadly it is true that people are becoming too self-absorbed, unfortunately.
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Um...wow...that sound scrazy..
There's a fairly fine line between being honest and open vs being crass and rude. Unfortunatley too mnay people are stupid enough to mistake the latter for the former.
LOL, who knows? Maybe she feels insecure or jealous about you having kids …and she having none.
We may not realize we’re harping on about a subject. I’m guilty of that as well. Maybe you were talking about kids too much. And for someone who doens’t have kids…it can be hard from them to relate to you. It doesn’t mean that one shouldn’t talk about their kids at all…but if the person you’re speaking to is not at that stage of life…it’s good to try and vary the conversation topics.
BUT…I do FULLY agree with you that the girl was rude. Even if she did think you were boring, she could have stayed quiet about it. Or she could have changed the subject herself. Or she could have made an excuse…gotten up…and left to interact with other people. She’s plain tactless…doesn’t have class. There are many ways to handle a situation and she picked the most juvenile method.
People tend to be more polite with strangers…and more carefree/rough with those that they are familiar with. For example, we’re more likely to be carelessly snippy with our own siblings than someone we meet at a party. If she’s behaving like that with you…I wonder how she behaves with those that are closer to her. What goes around tends to come around. She doesn’t pay your bills, don’t worry about her. You don’t owe her anything. She’s not obligated to like you…and same goes for you. The people who respect you and value you are more deserving of your attention and time. She’s not one of them. Just move on
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LOL! Oh wow if you have to browse Facebook you do not announce it to everyone! She is crazy I tell ya! Then this thread is what happens or people talk about you behind your back. I get bored at parties too but I don't announce I am browsing FB. If anyone notices, I say "text message agaya tha". Usually I don't get bored but I am at an age group and level where I don't fit in with the unmarried single girls and I don't fit in with the married aunties :/
