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There is humor and there is nastiness. Some posts were just plain nasty. I have no idea what Phupo means - but I did understand OP. This is not rocket science.
This is not an English class where OP needs to be so concerned about proper English etc. Give it a rest.
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I have no idea what Phupo means .
Dad's sister
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^ Thanks!
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^No problemo
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@Guac Do explain it to me. There are cousins and cousins and cousins all over. OP herself is married to a cousin. All advice really will rest upon taking the interrelationships into account since each would affect the other. In her case, somehow everything affecting one person affects the rest due to the intermarriages. It's a domino effect. Hence the importance of understanding which cousins she is talking about .
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@Guac Do explain it to me. There are cousins and cousins and cousins all over. OP herself is married to a cousin. All advice really will rest upon taking the interrelationships into account since each would affect the other. In her case, somehow everything affecting one person affects the rest due to the intermarriages. It's a domino effect. Hence the importance of understanding which cousins she is talking about .
Kurripunjabn had it but here it is from my understanding:
Nadz has a cousin A
Cousin A’s BIL is getting married
Cousin A and her BIL are cousins
Cousin A’s mom is BIL’s dads sister
Cousin A’s sister is married to Cousin B, they are getting a divorce
Cousin A’s inlaws want Cousin A's family to participate in the wedding which is going to be in Pakistan
Cousin’s A family is devasted and heartbroken because of Cousin A’s sister's divorce
Cousin A’s inlaws don’t know about divorce but know Cousin A’s sister is not in a good situation
Are cousin A’s inlaws rude?
Nadz: I don't really think that the inlaws are at fault because while they may know the sister is having bad times they don't know how serious it is (i.e. divorce)............Your cousin's family needs to have a talk with your cousin's inlaws
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So the marriage is in cousin B's family and therefore it is rude to expect cousin A's family to attend? I had a situation like this in the extended family and it really strained the other relatives ie us because the families who were feuding cos of the divorce proceedings would want us to pick sides!! Within family!
Another reason I am against cousin marriages!
Thanks Guac :)
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Desi people can be blunt and at times very excessively rude, don’t mind hater comments…. Onto your question, cousin in laws as you said don’t know what has happening with divorce and how the gal was treated but knowing all desi’s sure have some jist of it and usually will play blind eye role in we don’t know anything come to the wedding, however not ideal for the family due to circumstances an excuse should suffice. They should not go to the wedding it is important to understand that when someone invites for a wedding they expect you to be there for a joyous time and the family is going through some difficulties and most likely will not be able to provide that for the wedding. It is appropriate to not go.