my cousins lil dewar is getting married in feb/march in pakistan, the dewar is her cousin. my cousins sister also married her cousin who also lives in pak. now the cousins sister is getting divorced- the guy and his family are all xxxxxxxx, and they also happen to be family.
so anyway, my cousins inlaws, expecting someone to come from my cousins family here in uk, ( same as my inlaws epxect that), yet shouldnt they think that my cousins sister is getin divorced and cosins parents are so devastated and heartbroken, yet all the inalws thinking about is whose coming to their sons wedding…they dnt actually know shes getting div, BUT they know how bad shes been treated and most likely wont ever reconcilate, so they know the situation. is it rude of them to still expect parents of the girl to come to their wedding, because they are looking at it from their point of view that my cusins mum is the dewars phupo…
If they are not putting gun to head of this girls parents to go to their wedding , then they are not obliged to go. If she is getting divorced they can tell your in laws that we cannot go we are dealing with this crisis and your in laws will understand , if they do not understand then they are morons and who wants to relate to morons anyway ?
most of the people infact most of the rishteydaars are very indifferent and insensitive if a divorce happening to someone else's daughter in their family.......... u cant change them so why bother
Why are you even complaining? The in-laws *DON'T *(I expect most posters to miss this point completely) know she's getting divorced. Big deal. Tell them. The in-laws are not super human.
Yes there's a huge difference the usual fights and fall outs (no matter how bitter they maybe) between couples and an actual divorce! So don't throw any riddles like oh she's not happy, they're not treating her well bla bla...tell them straight up that she's in a middle of a divorce process and she needs all the help and support available.
You know its insanely piss taking to see people expecting the unexpected!
Sure it's insensitive. People are self-involved and self-centered. It is natural to most humans, not some sort of new discovery or something that is unique to your family. They should just say they're not going and let the others complain. They will do it anyway. Why waste extra time worrying about it?
may be they r not pressuring any1 2 attend the wedding may b since they r rishteydar so they have 2 invite them just for formality its their choice whether 2 go or not call me insensitive or what but i think life doesnot stop for anything it keeps on gng wth all its work n activities ppl continue living their life one can only feel sorry 4 whts happening ofcourse they cant stop their son's wedding n for formality they might have given invitation bc i m sure for one thing if they have not invited then ppl have called them rude they didnt invited their family member n blah blah in any case lolz they r not forgiven
they dnt actually know shes getting div, BUT they know how bad shes been treated and most likely wont ever reconcilate, so they know the situation.
One thing you MUST learn about people.....they're not mind readers!
Re-read the above portion that you yourself wrote. If the in-laws don't know that a divorce has been filed....the no, they do NOT "know the situation". And from the in-laws perspective...."most likely they will never reconcilate" does not mean that the marriage is over. This means there is a slight chance they marriage will go on.
So from the in-laws point of view...regardless of how bad the girl has been treated....she's technically still their daughter-in-law and part of their family.
So no....in this situation....the in-laws are not being rude at all. On the other hand....if the girl hasn't told the in-laws that she will not be their "bahu" anymore......then its wrong for her to expect them to stop treating her like one. From what I understood from you post....the girl was mistreated by her husband....not her in-laws (although the in-laws are aware of the ill treatment).
And here the BEST part about this Nadz: This is NONE of your business! This is 0 effect on you, your husband, and your children. And honestly, given the issues you have within your own marriage.....I would highly recommend you do not give this situation a 2nd thought.
No offense but kudos to those that even bother reading and interpreting that. Why do you take on all the world's problems and make them your own, Nadz? Enjoy life and chill maaro.
