Why are people so insecure about their relationship?

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^LOL
It was the first time. No need to go all american on me

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We have made this deal between us that he won't go alone with a co-worker girl on lunch and similarly I won't go out with a male friend alone for tea/coffee. I just want to keep things even, I made this deal few years ago when he was in fashion industry and often used to go out on lunch with a female co-worker, they were really good friends but people at work got jealous and started talking nonsense so I suggested to him not to go alone with a female again for his own reputation/safety and I would do the same. And when I took a job, a boy who was my senior wanted to teach me snooker so I just resigned from the work.

So I conclude, when you're married you have to be extra careful with people at work.

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it's not about insecurity...it's about being careful .

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My dad has 5 brothers all five have cheated on their wives. My pupo also recently found out her husband is a cheat. So Ive said to my husband that if ever comes the day that he wants to be with someone other than me, I'd want him to just tell me, because, though it would hurt, it would hurt much less than him being with me and cheating on me. It's futile to be in a relationship like that for both parties.

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I think people are insecure because their respective spouses cannot trust the other person. However, here it becomes tricky because you gotta trust your spouse at the end of the day. And if your spouse broken your trust then of course he or she is not your "spouse".

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i just realized that if i care and love a man and even if he smiles at another beautiful woman, my initial reaction would be one of being pissed off at him,. but then i look at all those women that are one of four or three wives of a man and how strong they must be emotionally, they are able to handle the man they love making love to another woman(yes she is his wife but still…). seriously a big :k: to them. I know i’m not at that maturity level where i would be able to handle that.

i would trust him but like halima said, i would want him to tell me straight off if he’s in love with somebody in his workplace. In a strange way i would have more respect for him if he did that rather than running around behind my back with his colleague.

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^Well lets hope this wouldn't be the case. Insha'allah everyone wants honest spouse so may get one. Talking about that..YO! we were suppose to go for timmys.

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@Halima15
thats messed up o.O
but have you ever wondered if its your families fault that they have cheating husbands/relatives?

@Hammurabi
what did you say?

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it would depend on whether my hypothetical wife's co-worker was better looking than me.

women need to worry less about this bcos even though their husbands might spend time with better looking female coworkers; those women might not even take a crap on their husbands.

but even an average looking woman can easily have affairs with goodlooking men at the workplace.

we all seem to be reluctant to admit how the dynamics at the workplace are.

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why would you want to be with someone who is cheating on you. youre not a monetarily dependent housewife are you ?

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arrey, the key words there are "if i care and love a man", if God wills it then someone decent, caring, nonpsychotic, nonplayer type shall come along :p
love my career too much to be a homemaker, besides i suck at housework(i shall conquer that territory too!).......

BTW, what does your question have to do with all that i said or did you misunderstand what i wrote eh?

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@kakee Yeah, I think they were all forced into marraiges none of them wanted and at very young ages, all at around the 16-19 mark I think. Firstly, I blame my grandparents for marrying their children to their nieces/nephews/people they know and not even asking their kids and then I blame my uncles for being so weak.

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:halo:

Why do the husband or wife need to see their co-worker after work? or meet-up for lunch/dinner? If they are friends then the wife/husband can join them too, wat’s the issue?

It’s not about trust but just avoiding complicating relationships.

Vade aaey modern log :nook:

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@Nisha25 - wow that sucks
how can they make children that haven't really developed mentally marry?
they couldn't have handled the responsibility of a relationship.

@ZareenKhan - how suffocating and untrustworthy ones relationship has to be if the wife/husband has to monitor every move each other makes.
That sounds more complicated to me.
I wouldn't tag along with my husband if he's working or wants to go out. Although I don't think anyones husband will go out for dinner with a female or male co-worker when they are married.
I trust my husband whole heartedly to be faithful. I don't need to monitor his every move to know he won't cheat on me. =P

Also ladies and gents
if your husband or wife cheats on you then don't you think theres something wrong with your marriage? With how you treat each other?

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:hmmm: hmmm what thread topic are you writing this under? what children are you talking about? i didn’t mention children anywhere in my post. I’m hoping you just wrote that by mistake…or if you didn’t please elaborate on what you’re talking about…tanku

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16 ~ 19 are children in my eyes =P

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I never said you should tag along to work with your spouse. But going for dinner/lunch with your co-worker is def not part of work hence i dnt find it important.

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hm okay
although I find it weird I guess thats normal for you?
so one should have lunch by him/herself instead of with a co-worker?

also I don't know anybody who has dinner with their co-workers when they get married. Do you?

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Yes, they can have lunch together in a group but not alone with someone of opposite sex. If you are ok with it then good for your husband :bummer: :k:.

And if you think married people don’t do that then why are you even arguing with me :confused:.

:disgust:

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well lunch and dinner are very different.

well if your guy looked at you with hearts in his eyes everyday wouldn't you trust him? and would you really care who he has lunch with as long as he's faithful and gives you the same loving look the first time you two met or wed or w/e?