Why are people so insecure about their relationship?

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I’ve been reading a lot on GS about how people would mind if their spouse did something alone with the opposite sex.
I don’t understand why are they so insecure about it? Don’t they trust their husband/wife?

or is it because they think the woman/man will hit on said husband/wife and suddenly the husband/wife will fall in love with that person.

please explain to the by stander D:

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I wonder about that too. And I also wonder how these folks plan on keeping tabs on their spouse 24/7! If my husband wanted to have an affair, he could do it pretty easily - there is no way I can monitor him every moment of every day (and vice versa).

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i guess after my aunt was given a divorce by my uncle after he fell in love with a fellow doctor, it's a bit tough for me to see your point of view. they were happily married from the looks of things. I know not all men will be like him but still certain experiences in my life do affect how i see men.

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mera pati sirf mera hai. :snooty:

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Because women aren't all that sane really. They are creatures of emotions rather than logic.

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^You are making loads of sense today. Wow. Please carry on. :k:

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I always make sense. The difference is the ability to comprehend what I write is dependent on the reader :D

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So just because one guy (your uncle) had an affair you won't trust all the other guys in this world to be faithful? and how would you know if they were truly happy? when obviously the husband wasn't.

@CM
both women and men can be insecure to the extent they want to in-trap their spouse and monitor every move.

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Of course. However the greater likelihood is that women will do so. Just look at the posts here on GS. Most of the women are the ones who are insecure.

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kakee, a life of a doctor is tough, they're devotion is to their patients so most of the time they're in the hospital rather than with their spouse so i can see how they can be tempted. i'm not judging him in a negative way and i don't know whether their marriage was great but still i can see why a person would be alert if their spouse spent an unbelievable amount of time with a person of the opposite gender at the workplace.

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I guess so.

In your opinion do you think these women would have still been insecure about their relationship if they have had male friends as they were growing up?

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@Nisha25

I thought hospitals usually had about 50+ doctors?
and aren't there nurses as well as other technicians as well?

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but there was a woman at the other end, right? : )

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I can understand where you're coming from Nisha, but do you think putting restrictions on your husband will really help? How do you know he's not doing exactly what he wants when you're not around?

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not in any love relationship at the moment and not planning to be

you're right, not really blaming anybody and i really didn't want it to be a male vs female thing, both men and women can be tempters.

I personally would be alert though and hope and pray that the spouse does the right thing and remembers his/her vows as tempted as they might get, of course being in a happy, fulfilling marriage and not in a volatile, painful, bad marriage matters.

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I personally have seen a family member experience this and it has left us all feeling shattered.

Saying that i could honestly say i wouldn’t doubt my hubby as i trust and love him and even seeing that happen so close to home

i think our bond is now even more stronger :wub:

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Yet it's men like you who get all riled up finding your woman dining with some random dude. So yeah really sane...more women get killed in domestic violence by their husbands/boyfriends due to their insecurities and unnecessary jealousy.

Kakee- Because it's natural to get attracted to someone regardless of your marital status. And like Hareem1 said, "mera pati sirf mera hai" :D Knowing he's with another woman makes us uncomfortable and same goes for men, they are even more uncomfortable with the idea.

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That’s perhaps because, most of the men are not trustworthy!? :hmmm: Or perhaps because most of women are just so insecure!? :hmmm:

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you do know that before he met you he was able to control himself and not have a gf etc
so what could possibly change now that he has a wife?

@hareem1 @Theorist @anybodyelse

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