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I have no idea what is going on in this thread.
It is called "pouring out frustrations".
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@ post 100: Stop and frisk is real. And there is no such thing as a "left liberal media". That phrase is coined by the craziest on the right, with the Moderates towing the line.
How about them Moderates? Don't answer that.
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There could be a gang operating behind that.
Or two people. Or a single person.
But nobody really gets affected by your stuff. Whos wasting his time? You enjoy being cursed by ppl here? You add more to your miseries. Bellas point, desi muslims are loserish hubs. Fine.
Zetsuis point, pakistan men bagairat.
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And if notta typo of punjabi whats pakjabi.anyone can tell
Tay nalay jender vi asli ala das chadyo. Aini konfusion spread karna vi changi gal ni hondi
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Your mom wasn’t protecting your dad. she was protecting her kids. By scolding you two, she prevented your dad, from hitting you two. Your dad, prevented your mom from visiting her family, so that slowly the relationship desolves, and she has no one in the outside world to comunicate too or rely on for help if needed. This helps him kind of slowly brainwash her, into doing what he wanted, and accepting how he behaved as normal. Kudos to your mom for still having the ability to raise someone opinionated, and able to realize what was going on. She is a strong woman. Many time kids of these families, just end up on drugs, or dropouts, because of depression, and the fact that the dad’s lowered there selfesteem to the point where, the kids think they are not worthy to do anything. The dads do this to prevent the kids from fighting back when they get older. Usually these guys have somesort of agression, due to a bad childhood, or the fact that life is harder for them somehow.
This happens in every issue of domestic abuse, regardless of race or origin. Actually there was a 20/20 episode, where this guy used to force his kids to record him beating his wife. You can see it on youtube.
Its not just pak and saudi, mostly all Asians have men in the dominant position. It used to be in Europe/America as well, and still is, just less. Its just more seen in Pak and Saudi, because women are more dependent on their husbands for financial support inaddition to the social stigma of divorce. Alot of women will hear all this and say oh, “mene berdasht kia, yeh kuni karsakti ti”. Its getting less actually in our culture though as many women aren’t taking as much, and getting divorced more often.
Don’t feel bad, use this negative experience to improve yourself. Like take your mom on a vacation, or take her out, and keep communcation with her. You don’t realize how lonely she must have been when you were younger and she had noone to talk to. I know it will never fix what happened, but it doesnt’ hurt to give some happiness to someone.
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a tablespoon of honey a day keeps beghairti away.
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Because the women have no other choice!! You are 101 percent right but it’s not that the women let their husbands and inlaws abuse them, they try to raise their voices but thier own families refuse to provide any kind of support and ask women to live or die in whatever situation their husbands and inlaws are keeping them. I myself saying it with my own experience!! A woman cannot just leave her husband and and live alone somewhere in pakistan. People’s sick mentality will always be like “ooh this woman is a 2 number, living all alone? Must be awaara, let’s harass her let’s follow her blah blah” and where a woman should report about harassment in pakistan?? Who will listen to her and is their any women rights policy in pakistan?? Police itself harasses women if they go all alone to report abuse/domestic violence. Is safety provided to women in pakistan like in usa or uk?? No government women shelters have been built in pakistan and the last choice would always be ansaar barni trust or edhi. Would a woman leave her house and take her school going kids to edhi??? Never!! so what is the last choice?? Women who are living under husband/inlaws abuse are surely dead inside. They have no life in them just walking corpses for the sake of atleast getting safety from the “men outside”
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sticky honey on succulent lips… 
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You know..i learnt that Domestic violence is quiet of epidemic. Domestic violence means, violent or aggressive behavior toward your spouse directly. It is sad really. Few months ago, i attended session to learn more about specifics of abuse and domestic violence..and stories you hear..make your hair stand up. But some..people lie about domestic violence to use it on their favour. It all comes down to assessing, balancing and communicate rightly. That is what i learnt.
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I hate violence against justice. I hate the post-colonial nation-state.
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for people who don’t know …
