Why are Pakistani men such begerat?

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Re: Why are Pakistani men such begerat?

@zetsui

Lots of funny jokes from women who also complain about being on the short end…I guess 70%+ domestic violence rate is funny to you guys. Pakistan is a joke. Then again I’m speaking to people who won’t even mind lying to themselves about their ancestors and zaat coming from Hindus lol…

Its not funny. Abuse is never every funny and no one in this thread is laughing.

@bella88

I am not playing the victim card her, I left my ex-fiancee long time ago when he let me get abused my his family. I am only sharing my experience to explain why i agree with the OP and why I think majority of Pakistani guys incliduing American pakistani guys are indeed beghairat.

@bella88

why is it considered such a big step to end a relationship with a beghairat whos not keeping you happy? yes he was pakistani american, educated and good career.
However ending that was the best thing i did as i met someone whos not a beghairat and treats me like a queen.

Kudos to you for leaving an abusive relationship.

I don’t like to say such things but I will take a risk and put it out there because…well…why not?

Women who leave abusive relationships are strong, tough and should be applauded. But I don’t understand why they don’t give back? Why do women not feel its their obligation to give back to their community? I don’t meet many people who fee a sense of duty or responsibility towards others…and that bothers me. Its awesome you left and took a stand…now go and help someone else do the same. Its not over…until its really over…for everyone.

@Theorist

^When you have women believing that a man has to provide for them then they are sealing their fate. Start teaching our girls to stop depending on men and I can guarantee this abuse will stop. They will know how to get themselves out of such situations.

This ^

IMO women are their own worst enemies. We raise these men, make them who they are. We give in to their fathers’ demands, allow them to bully us in front of our sons and set examples of what a woman is really worth. If a woman wants, she can run the show…but she still feels she is dependent. How is a woman who can carry life inside her weak? How?

A man may be the head of the family…but the woman is the neck and she can turn that head any way she wants. (Taken from My Big Fat Greek Wedding)

Stop putting the blame on men…take responsibility. Nothing changes by dumping on others…you have to change yourselves first.

Also, Pakistani men that come from good families cannot be beat. My father. My husband. My brother in laws. Many many many Pakistani men I know…excellent excellent excellent men. But these guys had amazing role models in the form of women in their lives.

I know a guy…his mother was a single mother of 8 kids…in Pakistan. I don’t even know how she did it but she raised them into educated, well rounded human beings. They are respectful, good, caring and strong people…who worship this woman. My own mother…such an amazing, tough as nails little lady who raised four girls while my dad fell sick at a young age. She got all of us through school, educated, married, etc.

There isn’t anything a woman cannot do if she wants. So no, I refuse to believe that a man is the only one to blame.