Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

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Which brings up to the question (as Deeba1234 also pointed out): Why are parents so obsessed? Why do they blackmail their kids into getting marries (esp girls)?

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because on their heads they have their lamba chaura khandan and the family friends social circle who wouldn't be there at the time of need but would make sure to call once in a while and demand **'beti ki umar nikalti ja rahi hai..kab tuk bithaye rakho ge..log batein banana shuru ho gaye hain' **

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So why do people care so much about pleasing people they don't really like?

These kind of people are easily put in their place, you have to be firm (or maybe rude depending on the situation) JUST ONCE.

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Its fun poking at your insecurities. Its rather easy to do as well.

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The people's rants that I mentioned just add to the misery of parents of daughters of marriagable age. But they also have a religious duty to marry their daughters. Only the external pressures end them with accepting the most horrendous rishtas and thus the horror wedding stories.

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So do boy's parents (although personally, I do not believe that Marriage is anything more than a Sunnah; most people believe otherwise) but they aren't so obsessed. What gives?

Second, why don't daughters complain? Or are these above mentioned idiot relatives more important to the parents than their own daughters? If this is the case, then these hypothetical parents are an insult to parenthood.

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like i said earlier too ..it is a man’s world :halo:

  1. if a father’s alive and his daughter gets divorced but with his full support..people never point fingers.
  2. If a daughter has male friends who come over her place and her dad’s ok with it..people might whisper but wouldn’t dare say much
  3. If a husband drinks/is on drugs ..people sympathise with the wife and tell her tips to get him on the right way ..if a woman does that all hell breaks lose ..and it ends up with ‘foran talaaq do us bedeen larki ko’ :stuck_out_tongue:
  4. If a single mom’s daughter gets separated/divorced the general impression becomes ‘jaisi maa waisi beti’ or ‘us ki maa ne hi tarbyat theek nai ki’
  5. If a girl goes the brother should come along too and she needs to get back by 8 …if a boy goes why isn’t her sister asked to accompany him or keep an eye on him :stuck_out_tongue:

Just few of the reasons which stand by my statement ‘it’s man’s world’ …almost makes me sound as a ‘feminazi’ :smiley:

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I agree that all problems mentioned above exist. They can be, however, solved with one thing:
**MONEY. **

People may say it shouldn’t, but its what determines your position in society and the respect that you can command.

Which brings us the question: Why are girls so afraid of earning money?

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because they KNOW full well that their jawanii and Khoobsoortii are a **'limited time ownership'**** :D hehe**

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Are they? First time I've heard that girls are afraid of earning money.

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Then why don't they?

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to keep gold prices above the roof....

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Because when girls are born, parents feel responsible for them until they day they are married. When they get married, that responsibility is handed to her husband.

Girls have always been viewed as a zimmidari. Every parent dreams of the day they find a good man to leave their daughter with so they can live in peace knowing someone will be there to take care of her.

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But if they earn money, wouldn't they buy more gold and hence push the prices further upwards?

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Girls have always been viewed as a zimmidari. Every parent dreams of the day they find a good man to leave their daughter with so they can live in peace knowing someone will be there to take care of her.

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Ah, the core of the issue. But why is it so (girls being viewed as a burden). I feel that this too boils down to money; am I right?

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Lack of opportunities, social stigma, domestic responsibilities - a number of things. This is changing and everyone's opening up to the idea of working women in Pakistan. The problem is we expect our women to be superwomen. They might be ok with them holding a job but as long as they fulfill their domestic responsibilities. It's a lot of work and most Paki men are not willing to share household chores just yet. Unki mardangi main kami ajayegi...so yeah, why would a woman deliberately burden herself with more work. o and add joint family system to all of that.. Kuch ghalat hua to tanay milainge... kuch sahi hua to no appreciation..faida?

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its like you asked, why we need to eat food, why we need to breathe? why we need to sleep? blah blah..
if there were no satisfaction in such a relation, Allah would have made only ONE gender!! but HE created MEN & WOMEN, for He knew, both will need eachother!!

sorry, i dont agree, you can be right but to some extent, you right they couldnt manage their life along, but "ALONG" they may be the worst choice for eachother but that doesnt necessarily mean, if they marry some other, they will still go through the same situation, they might have made the mistake of choosing the wrong person!! and, yeah, you may be sharing your personal perception or maybe the people around you, think the same way, but not only women, also men want to find the best girl around to get married!! they are also very concerned about this matter!!

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Everything does boil down to money unfortunately... The day women become independent is the day this culture will die and I can't wait..

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What about educated women?

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They might be ok with them holding a job but as long as they fulfill their domestic responsibilities. It's a lot of work and most Paki men are not willing to share household chores just yet.
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So why don't women put their foot down?

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o and add joint family system to all of that.. Kuch ghalat hua to tanay milainge... kuch sahi hua to no appreciation..faida?
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No one cares about people who don't care about them without the presence of external factors. What are these factors?

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But why are some so keen to hand that responsibility over to someone else as soon as they can? I don’t think marrying off your daughter asap is done out of love, if you really loved her wouldn’t you want her to stay around a bit longer?

One of my cousins married a girl whose parents pushed for nikah after one quick meeting, I mean don’t ppl worry about what sort of person their daughter will end up with or is getting rid of her in as short a time as possible the most important thing? :confused:

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Neither can I, but until this culture exists, women can't become independent. Its a vicious cycle. Fortunately, some people have been able to break out and I feel its their duty to help those who are still trapped.