Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

[Reha]

Re: Why are girls so obsessed with marriage?

@IceSoul

Ah, the core of the issue. But why is it so (girls being viewed as a burden). I feel that this too boils down to money; am I right?

It does. Men (supposedly) are an investment because they will stay with you and eventually pay you back for whatever you put into them. Women are “paraya dhan”…this is of course only in our culture.

@Deeba1234

But why are some so keen to hand that responsibility over to someone else as soon as they can? I don’t think marrying off your daughter asap is done out of love, if you really loved her wouldn’t you want her to stay around a bit longer?

One of my cousins married a girl whose parents pushed for nikah after one quick meeting, I mean don’t ppl worry about what sort of person their daughter will end up with or is getting rid of her in as short a time as possible the most important thing?

It IS love Deeba…in its own way. A traditional parent from our mom and dad’s generation will NOT rest knowing their daughter MIGHT be left “be-sahara” or alone. A woman in their eyes has always needed someone with her…a man. Leaving their daughters without a man to care for them is equivalent to being a bad parent - in their own eyes. They feel they failed as a parent.

I’ve seen it my whole life…my mother worried about what will happen to her daughters if they’re not married. Its not ALL about money though Deebs. Its about security, protection and a sense of sukoon that your child is not being left alone. Someone will be there for her to protect her. She will have children and those children will have a father. She will have someone to grow old with. All of those things.