I am a girl myself, and to be honest, I do not understand this kind of behaviour.
We are living in the 21st Century, and we went through the Feminist Movement and the Woman’s Liberation Movement. We have realized that we are infact equal to men, in both the the eyes of the law and religion. Gone are the days when a girl needed the support of a guy to stay alive in this world. Men are not superior to us anymore, and therefore can be treated as friends. Infact one of my best friends happens to be a guy.
So why is that girls always fall for the wrong guy? Why do they insist on giving their everything to some guy that does not even care about their feelings. About their hasratain and stuff. Why do they fall in love with the world’s biggest jerk, and can NOT move from there. Why can’t they get over?
My friend is going through something terrible. Everytime I think about her, my heart just feels like it is being squeezed by someone. It hurts me so to think about her, about her feelings, about how her feelings were basically used and manipulated by some guy who does not give even a dang about her. I could not really believe that she could fall in love with some guy from goodness knows where in the course of two days, and in the same time have her heart broken. And now that the guy has come back, he does not even say anything, as to whether those two are even a couple or not, and just pretends and goes around that he does not want anything, or like nothing happened.
And that idiot! She just can not move on! She can’t forget about him. She realizes that what she is going through is just wrong, and I think she wants to move on, but she just can’t seem to! Why? I don’t understand this! And she is such a nice girl too. She can’t dislike anyone either.
Life is too short to have a broken heart I think. Life is too short to consider about jerky people. This episode has changed her whole prespective in life. I mean, when i heard what she was talking about, I wanted to cry or hit her or something.
Two days and in she's in love? I hope that was sarcasm.
Anyway, sh!t happens and she knows that she needs to move on. If that's logically registered in the brain somewhere, then the heart will catch upto it eventually in due time. As for girls letting themselves be treated like that, i don't think there's a universal rule that dictates since we are now equivalent to men we shouldn't let ourselves be mistreated. ( I don't know if that made sense) I don't think it has to do with equality. Plenty of girls break a guy's heart, and vice versa happens. You live and learn, but it doesn't mean you make stupid choices that will clearly lead you to emotional distress.
p.s its ok to have ur heart broken.. u learn a lot from it but to keep going back to the same person is stupidity... remain friends if u wish, but dont expect anything to happen of it
I agree with you with regards to insequrity, however my husband disagrees..he says no one can control whom they fall in love with, and love makes you be softer to the person and then you make excuses....
he's a softy though and with me..i tend to think if they don't treat me well..then..or to quote what i told a guy once 'my life is happier when you aren't in it..."
yeahhhhhhhh yyyyyyyyyyy??????
y cant they get over it and move on...dumb galz......it's not even love it's just a crush...give her sometime hopefully she will get over him.
^^ being a muslim i try to {when appropriate} deliver my points from the islamic side of things {if that made sense} so if the party under discussion in this thread is a muslim by chance, then she should know that she is wrong, love + feelings r for ur husband only or vice versa once u r in wedlock things like expressing love et cetera r all fine but not b4 marriage all this isn't correct behaviour 4 a muslim, if she isn't a muslim then i reserve to comment any further as my understanding of other mainstream faiths is far from perfect.
ok so first of all, my friend is not a muslim larki, just to clear LUC’s ideas and views. but regardless off that, she is a very good friend of mine. and yes, it was 2 dayz…the course of a weekend really. truly unbelievable for me as well when i realized it.
The reason i said that we are liberated and do not need a guy is because she said that “you need a guy to love this weather” (we are having beyond beautiful weather here in T.O. )
the fact that really hurts me is that she is just so nice and innocent a sweet. i mean, in highschool, while everybody (including me) was a weirdo, she was the only “normal” girl. and this was the first time that she actually sorta fell in “love”, and then that sorry excuse for a guy totally screwed everything up!
all i can do is be her friend i know. she is the only one that can truly make herself move on. sheesh…WHY? and yea, i know, some guys are like this too! rolling eyes
btw LUC, it is true that it is perhaps wiser to be in love after marriage and all, just to save someone from this kind of mess, i dont think that our religion as you say says that love, or even likeness before marriage is wrong. that view is totally cultural. i would like to point towards the marriage of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and Hazrat Khadija.
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who learned their lesson Aleezay? me or her? i hope she learned her lesson. as for me…i learned mine from day 0!
and yes LUC i am girl…thankyou very much…(alhamdullilah )
pps…please leave religion out of this…like sadzz said, religion has nothing to do with feelings and love.
i though with dat name/nic u was a boy/man anyways is that heart-broken friend of ur’s a muslim by any chance!
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