Don't know about other South Asians but Pakistanis living outside usually try to avoid each other...but once you befriend them they will treat you very nicely.
That is very true. From my experience, Pakistanis tend to avoid each other, Nepalese are pretty friendly, Hindu Indians, they just stare and I mean JUST stare without any emotion and without blinking lol Sikhs, they usually smile at you especially if you are wearing shalwar kameez. Muslim Indians are 50/50, some smile and others are very haughty and finally, Kashmiri's are pretty nice too.
That is very true. From my experience, Pakistanis tend to avoid each other, Nepalese are pretty friendly, Hindu Indians, they just stare and I mean JUST stare without any emotion and without blinking lol Sikhs, they usually smile at you especially if you are wearing shalwar kameez. Muslim Indians are 50/50, some smile and others are very haughty and finally, Kashmiri's are pretty nice too.
I can't strike up a conversation to save my life. I am very socially awkward Nd have accepted this. I have been on long haul flights without speaking to the person right next to me the entire time. But if someone takes the initiative to speak to me I can continue the conversation. It is the initial hesitation.
This thread and most replies reminds me of one Urdu quip I read in my teen year which help me change.
Her koi shikayat kartha hay k koi ach-ach dost nahi milta magar khod ach-cha dost bun-nay key koshish nahi karta.
English translation:
Everybody rants that I do not have any good friend but does not try to be good friend.
Ponder on this and it will change your outlook about relationships with your own race.
Yes..i noticed that Pakistanis avoid each other. I am glad..i ain’t the only one who think like that. But..once we are jegree yarri with someone..we are loyal..ye tu hai!. Jahan tak rahee..larkiyon kee baat…larka Salam hee bolayy..boltey hain.. “chall bayy duur, flirt kar raha haii”..whereas that might not be the case..
I would they rather not be friendly. The older generation right after knowing you’re Pakistani background jumps on to know your ancestry and get too personal. Really.annoying.
Yes I have heard that too, once we went to a gathering in a city full of Pakistanis where we only knew one family. My mom tried to strike conversation with couple of other ladies and they basically said the same thing. It was so rude!
I’d have ended up in a huge fight with these people, captured it on my iphone then posted it on facebook.
:k:
That’s what these people deserve. Tauba hai.
I tried being friendly with a Pakistani girl with some cute kids at the Masjid last week. She was talking in Urdu to her kids, so I smiled at her and asked her if she’s Pakistani. She gave me the dirtiest look, said yeah, her parents are Pakistani, but she was born here. Then did not talk to me, walked in front of me as we walked out of the masjid and ignored me. I could feel this frost, I was wanting to carry the conversation further, but her attitude problem was too much.
Wearing a hijab, abaya, went and stood next to her car and obediently waited for her husband.
Wow, how could offend her like that PCG, Only her parents are Pakistani, obviously couldn’t you tell? lmao after a while though you learn to laugh at these people. I encountered not too friendly attitudes myself when I went to my university’s PSA meetings but it’s all good since I met another Pakistani girl who had faced the same issue and we became friends on the basis of unfriendliness of the majority other Pakistanis. Funny how things work out.
We have a namaz place where I study and there are all sorts of people and I like to randomly strike a conversation I don’t care where they are from, I just like to chat but some apniyan give you hostile vibes lol like straight poker face. So I be extra nice to them just to irritate them, because they repel you if you seem like a jolly person lol.
I’m not ready to answer personal questions to strangers I meet in the first meeting. Pretty social amongst the people I know/am comfortable with.