At my sis's wedding, a good friend of ours wore her shadi lehnga as she was recently married and it was nice to see her lehnga as to some reason we couldnt go to her wedding, so we saw her wedding attitire. Nothing wrong with it.
At my wedding, one of my cousin's wife wore her shadi dress and I thought how nice.
I wore my wedding dress twice, my valima one to a gathering, as I recently married and ladies were telling me to come in my wedding dress and then there was a shadi of a families friend, some said, wear your wedding day lengha, well unfortunately, it was magenta and the dulan was also wearing megenta, I saw her give me meany glares as I wanted to steal the show, inside I was cursing the females who advice and bugged me to wear my lengha, never again am I doing that again :D .. its okay in familes, if you wear it outside family atleast ask them it its ok with them as all are not so open to it.
I agree with lublyjubly.....u dont need to b wearing red on the wedding day if the dulhan is wearing red. Its just plain wierd. Mix it up thats fine, wear them on different days but clashing with the bride is neva a classy look.
yup! i agree with both of you on this. red/maroon/pink/shades of the previous are the traditional wedding color for pakistani brides, just like white is for gori brides. a lot of the gori girls i know have spent anywhere from $900 to $4000 on their dresses - thats a lot of money for a dress they'll only wear ONCE in their lifetime. they don't use that excuse to pull it out for friend's weddings!
its your day, its your time to be the bride, end of story.
you can wear another color even if its the same style of outfit, or you can wear a sari in bridal colors if you really must or a shalwar kameez, but the bride is the bride- you owe her the courtesy of running it by her, whether your close to her or not. what's the point of propping her up on stage and showing her off if her female posse will also end up in their wedding clothes and pose around her.
my aunts and cousins are planning to wear ghararas at my wedding cos they're elegant and graceful outfits but not a single one of them, my best friend included, is pulling out their wedding outfit. they have other ghararas from their jaheyz that they'll wear instead, or they'll wear a sari, and since i'm wearing green and champagne, i requested they not wear any shade of green or champagne cos i don't want them to match either me or my bridesmaids. i'm encouraging all other colors cos i want them to stand out on their own. they're my family and they should absolutely stand out, not blend in and be yet another pseudo-bride.
fine call me a gori, i don't care... maybe i am coming from the mentality that as women don't wear white to english weddings pakis shouldn't wear red wedding outfits if the bride is wearing red wedding outfit.
I am wearing red on my wedding day (to keep MIL happy) but my sister in laws and his close female relations are wearing red too...THAT is wrong!! there will be a sea of red on the stage.. it'll be like a blood bath....
Do it pakistan if you have to, where people get it, but in the west many of your guests are going to be like ' who the hell does she think she is?' ( i know, i've heard it and said it!!)
It is not ok for people to wear red on the same day as the bride, with all the gold! i know a lot of money is spent on clothes and things but wear in on a valima or mehndi... even then only if it's your sibling!
Do see white weddings full of women in their poofy white dresses>?!?! !!? !? they spend a lot of money on thier dresses too!
Before everyone starts screaming at me for being a gori, being born and brought up in a country away from Pakistan will inevitable mean you will adopt some elements of that culture too, both good and bad! like i said before there are good and bad elements of the pakistani culture as well as the western.
it's common courtesy not to wear your red wedding outfit on the same day as the bride is wearing hers... this is my opinion only!!!!!
lublyjubly the situation u mention here is totally not fare. cauz they all r wearing the same colour. if the colour is diff then i think its ok but this situation........... :(.
do one thing ask politely to your inlaws that if u all r dying to wear this colour on wedding day then please change the colour of my dress. otherwise please wear ur dresses on my mehndi or valima but do wear something else on wedding day.
i hope they do what u want.
They knew you were not wearing red, which is fine. To go ahead and wear red bridal outfits even after knowing you would be wearing it is what I have a problem with.
lublyjubly, I feel for you.
At the end of the day, some people like, some don’t. Plain and simple.
yaar it is not a big deal.... my mom was attending an american wedding and went on wearing a white dress, ofcourse her white was no where close to the wedding gown of the bride, neither the bride nor anyone else had a problem with it. She even consulted one of the brides maid and couple other people before deciding on that dress and everyone said it was perfectly fine, there was nothing wrong with it. There were couple other people wearing white aswell. Bride will always be unique no matter how many people wear the same color or style. She will always be the lime light of the party, wearing same kind of dress doesn't mean that the other person is trying to take over the party.
So yea, when I get married I won't mind my sils wearing their wedding dresses, it is their bro's wedding and they have all rights to celebrate and rejoice the event. Atleast for me it is not a big deal...it is just a dress...
oh and even if you are not my sil or my own sis and want to wear your wedding dress on my wedding, go ahead wear it.... I really won't mind...its all fun! :D
if i want to wear my wedding lehanga again then i definitely will (though i haven't yet 'cause mine is just too heavy)...
to all the brides...we, being the guests are there to rejoice your day.. you should rather be thankful to us for our presence rather than telling us what to wear and what not to wear. what's up with this 'stealing/grabbing attention'? are you insecure about yourself? well, YoU being a Bride is ' very special on your own' .. it doesn't matter what others are wearing or watever
My sister and close cousins who've got married within last couple of years wore their wedding lehngas on my mehndi .... i wouldn't have minded them wearing their lehngas on my wedding day with a toned down look but i think thats a good idea if you know that the bride won't be happy with you wearing wedding dresses on her wedding day or for whatever reason.
yaar the wedding dress that the goras wear, you can tell by just looking at the dress that it's a bridal wear. for us, it isn't that case. you glam it up by wearing all that jewellery and the makeup and the dupatta!
and there isn't one single shade of red in the world. there are TONS of other reds. and i seriously doubt that those who show up to the wedding are going to be wearing the same exact red, with the same exact style of jewellery, with the same way they do their makeup, with the same exact way they set up their dupatta. heck i think it would be cute if there is like a sea of red on the stage with one bride in t he middle just glowing (and hopefully not scowling)
yeah i get it...your big day...spent ages and ages planning, spent a whole bunch of money on it, but if you act like brides, you will stand out like the bride. no one will say oh hey dude...u know which of these bunch of red lehngas (including the ones that the little girls wear) is the bride? as for people commenting...they ALWAYS comment. when have you went to a wedding and not have a bunch of aunties commenting on everything? if you're going to let the aunties stop you from doing a whole bunch of stuff, including let others wear their old wedding lehngas...then wow man...you guys gotta take a break from everything.
oh btw...red's the traditional bridal color. the others (pinks and maroons) we just squeezed in :D but who cares about tradition, right?
and there isn't one single shade of red in the world. there are TONS of other reds. and i seriously doubt that those who show up to the wedding are going to be wearing the same exact red, with the same exact style of jewellery, with the same way they do their makeup, with the same exact way they set up their dupatta. heck i think it would be cute if there is like a sea of red on the stage with one bride in t he middle just glowing (and hopefully not scowling)
yeah i get it...your big day...spent ages and ages planning, spent a whole bunch of money on it, but if you act like brides, you will stand out like the bride. no one will say oh hey dude...u know which of these bunch of red lehngas (including the ones that the little girls wear) is the bride? as for people commenting...they ALWAYS comment. when have you went to a wedding and not have a bunch of aunties commenting on everything? if you're going to let the aunties stop you from doing a whole bunch of stuff, including let others wear their old wedding lehngas...then wow man...you guys gotta take a break from everything.
Out of the mouth of a babe!
I was beginning to feel like I was the only one here that could see how it doesn't really matter. "You're getting old Muzna", I told myself. Thank you for rescuing me from myself.
I just know that anyone that comes to my wedding, birthday party, aqeeqa, or funeral for that matter, is going to be someone that I care about and cares about me. If that be the case, then I want them to look their best. And if that means wearing their red wedding lehnga to an event where I'm wearing a red wedding lehnga, then so be it! The more the merrier.
But I have to say this…I can’t imagine anyone, not even the most well-liked movie star, will be able to compete with you when you are dressed as a bride.
Yaar…dulhan kay chehray pay noor hota hai…the kind that can’t be faked. Nobody will be able to imitate that on your special day no matter how hard they try.
Don’t stress about such petty things…you are above it all. Allah has blessed you with such beauty that this should really be the least of your worries…if you should have worries at all.
Yep I agree with Muzna too. Actually I think ladies wearing all their wedding gear, lehnga, jhoomar/tikka the whole nine yards look pretty ridiculous when they wear it to someone elses wedding and I don;t think a ridiculous looking person is any threat or competition for me :D No one can compete with the bride, its not like everyone will start taking group photos with the guest bride wannabe and desert the bride and groom anyway. If you really don't want anyone to wear the same colour as you either be very original with your colours and dress or then specifically request all the attendees to not wear red or whatever colour you are wearing. I think the baraat is the only occasion that warrants the re-use of bridal lehngas, mehndis involve more movement and valimas are not as gaudy, even brides themselves dress down a bit so baraat it is. I have never seen a guest show up at anothers wedding with the dupatta all set in place like the brides anyway. At both my sisters weddings other ladies showed up wearing their wedding clothes and neither one of them took offense.
see! that’s my point! it doesn’t matter if they do wear it because first of all…it’s very obvious that it’s out of fashion. the style of the lehnga. and second of all…there has got to be a brat running around that is a direct give away that she’s not the bride. so…hence…limelight not stolen from the real bride
btw those two little girlies are one of the cutest bunch ever
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