Who's the Bride???

[Muzna]

Re: Who’s the Bride???

@somegroovychick

its so selfish to take away someone’s pleasure in their wedding day, and obviously in this case, it matters to the bride how her people look,

If someone else’s attire is taking away from the pleasure of a day, then there are some other serious issues at play. As far as I know…most brides are so excited about the simple fact of joining their lives with another person…one that they love and cherish, that nothing else matters in the end.

after all, asking someone not to wear a colour is NOT a big deal.

No it’s not a big deal at all. But then again…nothing is a big deal if you truly look at things in perspective.

as for people honouring you by dressing up- well listen, if you’re going to a wedding, and you have any manners at all, you dress up. that much is obvious. no one shows up in cotton or jeans.

You are in for some harsh surprises in life…

i don’t plan on wearing my shaadi ka lehenga on my brothers wedding so it means i’m dishonouring them and aren’t really dressed up? that logic doesn’t work for me.

That logic doesn’t work for anyone…because nobody said that.
People merely said that if you decide to wear your wedding lehnga, the dress that you wore on that oh-so-most-important-day-of-your-life, then you are honoring the hosts. If you decide not to wear it, you are not dihonoring them.

and as someone planning her own wedding from scratch, for the past year, with every single detail worked out and tons of time and effort put into making a fun event for everyone, i can say that it will mean a lot!!

Now don’t be offended, but this last comment from you made me think of an episode of Rich Bride, Poor Bride that I saw on this past weekend. It featured a Hindu couple name Jana and Calvin and showed how Jana was so fixated on having things exactly a certain way for her wedding. It was frightening. Right down to the tiniest detail everything was choreographed. The exotic car that her husband was to pull up in, the Hummer limo that they were going to get to the helicopter pad in, the colour of her bride’s maid’s saris, the fireworks for her first dance, etc. etc. In the end their budget of $45K was blown away and the total bill ended up being $75,409.00. The guy responsible for their banquet hall stormed out on the day of the event because the bride’s event planner was over-zealous and intrusive and the bride was constantly snapping at everyone if they veered even slightly from plan. For a minute I was sure that I was watching Bridezillas!