Re: Who's the Bride???
thats harsh! i'd be pissed if i made a request to my family and they went ahead and ignored it. seriously- that is so rude. its her day, for cryin out loud! for one day, as a guest, you can't be bothered to find something else to wear? no ones asking you to spend 1000's on a new outfit- there are plenty of options available out there and its very easy to pick another choice. its so selfish to take away someone's pleasure in their wedding day, and obviously in this case, it matters to the bride how her people look, and it will cause her stress when they all show up in the same color she's wearing. honestly, i find pakistani people are just too focused on making a shaadi all about themselves and ignoring the bride and groom's wishes. i agree, it is a day for you AND your family, but mostly, its YOUR day. and your family should do all they can to not stress you out and cooperate with your wishes. and after all, asking someone not to wear a colour is NOT a big deal.
as for people honouring you by dressing up- well listen, if you're going to a wedding, and you have any manners at all, you dress up. that much is obvious. no one shows up in cotton or jeans. you don't have to go as far as wearing your own wedding clothes to honour someone. because, really, i don't plan on wearing my shaadi ka lehenga on my brothers wedding so it means i'm dishonouring them and aren't really dressed up? that logic doesn't work for me. i will totally dress up for my brother's wedding but that doesn't mean i'll show up in my own bridal gown, and if i do, i'll run it by my sis in law to-be first. its polite and it only takes two seconds.
and as someone planning her own wedding from scratch, for the past year, with every single detail worked out and tons of time and effort put into making a fun event for everyone, i can say that it will mean a lot!! i know some of you girls have been there too- i don't know how involved you were in your planning, but i've been handling every little detail on my own and the whole day means so much to me, that i really feel like asking MY PEOPLE, not everyone there, but just my people, to not dress in green- its a small thing for them and it will really mean a lot to me. and i'm doing it cos my bridesmaids are wearing green saris and i really want my family to wear some other color so they stand out from the girls and look good, instead of blending in. and also his mother has apparently bought a champagne dress already eyeroll and so across the board i've told people no champagne, no green. d'oh. mil's are a whole another thread, i tell ya! :P