Re: Who's the Bride???
fine call me a gori, i don't care... maybe i am coming from the mentality that as women don't wear white to english weddings pakis shouldn't wear red wedding outfits if the bride is wearing red wedding outfit.
I am wearing red on my wedding day (to keep MIL happy) but my sister in laws and his close female relations are wearing red too...THAT is wrong!! there will be a sea of red on the stage.. it'll be like a blood bath....
Do it pakistan if you have to, where people get it, but in the west many of your guests are going to be like ' who the hell does she think she is?' ( i know, i've heard it and said it!!)
It is not ok for people to wear red on the same day as the bride, with all the gold! i know a lot of money is spent on clothes and things but wear in on a valima or mehndi... even then only if it's your sibling!
Do see white weddings full of women in their poofy white dresses>?!?! !!? !? they spend a lot of money on thier dresses too!
Before everyone starts screaming at me for being a gori, being born and brought up in a country away from Pakistan will inevitable mean you will adopt some elements of that culture too, both good and bad! like i said before there are good and bad elements of the pakistani culture as well as the western.
it's common courtesy not to wear your red wedding outfit on the same day as the bride is wearing hers... this is my opinion only!!!!!
lublyjubly the situation u mention here is totally not fare. cauz they all r wearing the same colour. if the colour is diff then i think its ok but this situation........... :(.
do one thing ask politely to your inlaws that if u all r dying to wear this colour on wedding day then please change the colour of my dress. otherwise please wear ur dresses on my mehndi or valima but do wear something else on wedding day.
i hope they do what u want.