A) The funny and social type. Laughs out loud. Dresses well. Smells of the newest cologne on the street. Could very well be your brother’s friend, as both like to hang out the same places (cinemas, cafes, malls). All in all an outward person. You feel you know where you have him.
B) The very calm type. Very, very intelligent. Smiles more than he laughs. Really religious. Dresses and looks like a sharif guy. Smells of itr. Not at all the type that could sozialice with your brother, as he’d rather hang out in a masjid. You look up to this guy and really admire him, but at the same time you don’t feel you’ve got to know ‘the whole him’. You can’t imagine how it would be to be intimate with him.
Both are well educated and earn good money. Both come from a good family. Both have a beard.
Who would you choose and why? Is your pick the opposite of you? Please take time to explain
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i love this thread! btw my fiance is somawhat like B (minus the religiousy type, doesnt hang out at the masjid nor smells like itr NOR does he have a beard but he is a haafiz) , and I dont really KNOW HIM all that yet, tho we both are in the process...and I myself cant really imagine a married life with him as of yet so I'm not sure if he is the one but he is VERY nice, is studying and all that but even that cant really help you decide
I say go with the A, only becuase he is ur type, you can easily get to know him and since he is laid back, you'll feel more closer to him
and most likely, being intimate with a guy like that isnt hard, mainly becuase you can express yourself easily and whatnot
i think you should give these men, the choice to indicate whether they like you as well, or not.
it's often that men are unsure of what they want to do, when commiting so to over come their maturity, you need to offer a bigger heart, to prevent your disappointment towards them and to encourage them to think rationally, before they accept you as their better half, only to tell you later, they were unsure of themselves earlier.
A) The funny and social type. Laughs out loud. Dresses well. Smells of the newest cologne on the street. Could very well be your brother's friend, as both like to hang out the same places (cinemas, cafes, malls). All in all an outward person. You feel you know where you have him.
B) The very calm type. Very, very intelligent. Smiles more than he laughs. Really religious. Dresses and looks like a sharif guy. Smells of itr. Not at all the type that could sozialice with your brother, as he'd rather hang out in a masjid. You look up to this guy and really admire him, but at the same time you don't feel you've got to know 'the whole him'. You can't imagine how it would be to be intimate with him.
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so is #1 not intelligent and a total dumbass?
does dressing 'well' does not mean he dresses like a shareef guy..(how does a shareef guy dress) I mean when u say he dresses well..does he dress well but like a gangsta? how is that considered dressing well?
why would #2 not socialize with your brother? because your bro is not the hangin out at the masjid type? is he not social? would he not have much of a social life outside of masjid?
how about you find someone who dresses well, is intelligent, can be calm when he needs to be calm and laid back, can be all extrovert and social when that is what is needed, is religious but balanced, can socialize with anyone even if that person does not have a whole lot in common with him in interests or personality. who has many of the same interests you have and others that are his own gig.
now start looking
PS: and similarly you have to know, what are they looking for and how do you align with what they are looking for.
I'd go with B...according to your description he has everything going for him.....(minus the itr lol) : )
and as far as your brother is concerned....as long as he can get along with him...that's all that matters. He doesnt need to hang out with him. IMO anyway.
so is #1 not intelligent and a total dumbass?
does dressing 'well' does not mean he dresses like a shareef guy..(how does a shareef guy dress) I mean when u say he dresses well..does he dress well but like a gangsta? how is that considered dressing well?
why would #2 not socialize with your brother? because your bro is not the hangin out at the masjid type? is he not social? would he not have much of a social life outside of masjid?
how about you find someone who dresses well, is intelligent, can be calm when he needs to be calm and laid back, can be all extrovert and social when that is what is needed, is religious but balanced, can socialize with anyone even if that person does not have a whole lot in common with him in interests or personality. who has many of the same interests you have and others that are his own gig.
now start looking
PS: and similarly you have to know, what are they looking for and how do you align with what they are looking for.
loll.. yeah but your twisted take on the situation (which i agree with 100%) is not what miss diamond.in.rough wants to hear.
Also, why does it appear that you're (diamond in rough) already holding an opinion on these 2 guys? Like the 'funny n social guy' is all dressy and trendy n smells of heaven. But the other guy is religious and non-social and smells of 'itr'.
Umm, there's many guys out there who're religious and social and funny and more religious and they do NOT smell of itr.
I can clearly see that you already have your own opinion. Why choose who's better when one's a mango and the other a rabbit?
This is a really interesting thread...here are my thoughts:
I know that I could easily get to know A and probably have a great time with him. Being intimate with him wont be hard to imagine...but we dont know for sure do we? Life is easy to imagine with him...but its only our assumption...not reality. He seems cool, funny, intelligent and overall a great catch BUT does he add to you? Does he compliment you and make you want to be a better person?
Being with B would probably be a bit hard because you have to get over your own image of him being a religious guy to be intimate with him. You might expect yourself to be in a very traditional role after marriage...but you dont know that for sure at this point. The image of him being religious kind of blurs everything else doesnt it? Intimacy, humor, everyday life, etc. They become so hard to imagine...but that doesnt mean its not there.
I was faced with a similar choice once and opted for the cool one. Its not necessary my experience be true for everyone but it was pretty obvious I had made a bad choice shortly afterwards.
Someone once told me the volatile, crazy and head-over-heels type of love only lasts for a little while. What is left after that is what counts...friendship, compatibility, respect, admiration, etc. You still love the person but in a different way now...its a mature and very strong type of love.
Even though you might be more attracted to Guy A...go for Guy B...he will respect you.
