Re: Who should have the final say?
Quite often parents have certain things in mind such as those you mentioned, whereas the son/daughter looks at it from a different perspective. In addition, the son/daughter has different priorities and preferences that are clearly in contrast with the parents. At times it's difficult to get the point across, which results in serious discords.
Yes its not easy in a Desi family. Discords will happen, hearts will be broken, fights, emotional blackmails and what not. But in the end everyone has to decide what they think is right for them and THEN accept the results of their actions.