out of the two most important and trusted people in your life. your lover or your mother ? it is uncomfortable to disobey either.
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If you definitely need an authority then more likely you are insecure. And if there are insecurities then there is the fundamental problem right there so you have to rectify that first before jumping to the question you asked originally..
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Mother 
Wife can go back to naanke.
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insecure ? about what
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Check yourself out baby, i mean ice baby, as you are seeking an authority and trying to pick from yr lover and yr mom. do you really need to? Cant you go along with both while making good decisions on yr own?
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Actually in this case, your mother!
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Lover ≠ husband. That leaves the mother. Yeah, obey her unless she is unreasonable. In your case, she is not unreasonable just very very worried and cautious. I would be too. Listen to her.
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not lover say more like fiance
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I have no idea why lover/fiance…even husband… is an option when it comes to “final authority”.
If you are a child/teenager, then your final authority should be your parents (mother/father).
If you are an adult, then your final authority should be YOU. Its fine to ask for people’s advice/opinions but the “final authority” should not go to them.
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Neither will be an authority, but I will love and respect my mother more, she has earned it.
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Lover is not equivalent to a husband. Hear out the concerns of a parent with an open mind as they might be valid. The person who is not emotionally attached to a situation…be it a parent or friend etc etc…can view it with greater objectivity.
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Fiance ≠ husband. 
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i will explain it better . have you guys seen that drama serial called mere mehrbaan with ayeza khan and agha ali where her fiance wanted her to behave in one ways and listen to only him at the end but then she was always afraid fo what her nother woudlt hink nad afraid to go angainst them(her parents). thats closer to waht im talking about. she is an adult but still it is difficult and confusign for her.
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Listen to your mom. Your fiance doesn’t have a good track record. Not only that, he has lost all credibility with his past shenanigans. What is the issue anyway? Your mom doesn’t approve? Surprised?
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Tyrion Lannister
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no its not that. she does approve of the ristha because the guys cares about me and knows me very well. its soemthing else . i cant explain everythign here because people here are very judegmental and negative and twist evyerhting i say.
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Ice Baby - listen to your lover/husband/fiance whatever he is to you. Because deep down you KNOW that no matter what anyone says, you are not going to leave this guy alone.
Did he divorce the other girl yet? Because if not, then you should wait for that to happen first before you start assigning authority to other people in your life.
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If it’s a matter of only comparing the status of two relationships, then parents come out on top. If it’s a matter of comparing two arguments, then the one that is more sound is more superior. If there is confusion as to which argument should be followed, look to the quran/sunnah for guidance.
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Are you asking this question for the drama or real life? Are you able to distinguish between the two?