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Yeah, I would normally say people here are very judgmental and do twist everything OP says but in your case, it really is hard to see anything good coming out of this union. It’s your decision ultimately regardless of what anyone says.
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one can have only one mother.
Lovers are like flowers in a garden. There can be many and some are seasonal.
mother is all-season 
smokin:
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Your parents come first. AFTER marriage your husband can be an authority for you to take advice from and listen to. If there is conflict between deciding who has higher authority, husband or parent, then you look to the one who is sound and right in judgement. If you’re still confused then look to Allah. He is the ultimate authority. He is the Beginning and He is the final authority.
As for that drama: the girl was stupid listening to her fiance and not her parent and she ended up regretting it when she got blamed for the theft in the house. The lesson in the drama was to listen to your parents.
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I’m a guy and I know how deceitful some guys can be–they’ll say anything and everything for their self interest in order to get a girl to fall for them and girls understandably fall for it thinking it’s love. IceBaby, as a male I STRONGLY advise you listen to your parents they’ll always have your best interest at heart, not the soon to be divorcee and his family who have already done you and several other people wrong for their own interests.
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Your mother should be cause sometime we get so occupied emotionally and get so delusional that we dont see the far future and the reality which our parents can… always listen to them no matter how hard the decision may be.
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Frank Underwood!
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Your mother for sure…
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lol yeah yeah yeah every unmarried man will say his ‘mother’ but there is a reason why the saying goes ‘a son is your son until he gets a wife’
ain’t no man on this planet gonna pick his mother over the woman he sleeps with every night. they all turn their back on the women who raised them when it comes to sex, men are selfish like that
also how the hell is it fair that his parents are more important to him but in islam they say after marriage a husband has more authority over his wife than her own parents
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After marriage a woman leaves her fathers family and becomes a member of her husbands family. He is now responsible for her, he is the leader of the household. That doesn’t mean her own family are cut off. If her husband is telling her to do something against her family’s rights then she shouldn’t listen to him. Parents will always be important. Allah has given them rights over their children but at the same time when those children grow up and marry they also have rights to their spouse. Allah knows best.
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Thanks!
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My conscience - women are crazy, who the hell would give a woman the final authority over anything, my mother included!