Who is better: Pakistani Muslim young men bornthere/ raised here or born in the West?

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if you love someone why cant u just accept him how he is....why make him wax his chest , arms , legs and pluck his eyebrows etc.? i feel sorry for guys who end up with girls like that....who want to completely change them.

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ur the sensitive one...and this is exactly the type of guys i dont like. so whoever opened this thread wanted to know who i like and why....

well the reason i DONT like american/uk guys is because they are like Muslim Met Fan...i would never get on with them....cuz we'd always argue about little things....Pakistani born guys DONT argue about every little thing..

anyways, im going to sleep now . take care everyone.

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waxing has nothing to do with changing them completely. if ur man asked you to change something like say ur hair color or style...would u not do it? afterall u said he is the boss didnt u?

anyway i was just messing around about the wax. i could nvr make someone do anything they didnt wanna do. :)

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I guess u don tcheck under ur bed for the boogeymonster hiding under :bummer:

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generalizing once again.

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I don't want you on me either.

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so in other words u feel sorry for guys who end up with girls like me....wow how personal. i nvr said anything personal about u not once. hmm interesting :)

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ewww

:(

Yeah so seriously speaking.. in theory yeah everyone is different, but in reality, I think i'd go for someone from here, mainly coz we're likely to have the comon interests n values.

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i mean why does it matter where the guy is born or bred? LIke seriously, is this the criteria these days? My ex fiance was born and bred in Pak and still his behaviour was aweful.

I would think we would be looking for nice, caring and honest spouses only.

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dear all, cup cakes & berries?,

the reason for writing this thread was to see how many girls have a say in bringing their guys from back home, as is the practice with boys - they prefer the obedient type back boneless girls. in the case of young men, they are all boneless, SOME OF THEM, just has so much thick skin.
{i am just kidding. }, from here or from back there... they will remain Pakistani & all that goes along with it - the good the bad, they will remain Muslim or hypocrite Muslims, they will be abcds, they will be the hidden life livers, they will have their bad manners, they will not get married.

challenge to us women is, which one to choose, how to invest in the right one - our trust & devotion.

given the responses, my sense is that we have varied experiences but the common theme is - we are blessed in choosing who we want. some of us are brave and so unconventional things , some of us go with the flow and some just sit and wait for others to decide about their lives & that is the most bad position for making such an important choice of our lives.

U are in there, so u should have the other party assessed & the joint contract writ, on ur reasonable terms that is all.

best,
dush

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that is what i'm saying.
u just dont know who is right.
u need to know, though.
& that's the hard thing to over come.

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See thats the hardest part. No one comes with guarantees. I mean where the person was brought up may be relevant to some extent to determine what their ideas are like but i dont think it matters as much anymore.

I dont think you can actually "know" who is right and who isnt. There is nothing set in stone, people change all the time. Its a fact of life and it is surely hard to realise taht it is.

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Ira -why did u break up with ur ex?

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and is that any of ur business?

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am i talking to you? so why u butting in for?

since u decided to interfere, i’ll tell u why i asked. its relevant to this thread. duh :rolleyes:

cuz maybe she would be able to add something relevant to this thread…since she has experience unlike most of you

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Knock knock knock!!!!!!! Subah ho gayeee, uth jao, ankhein kholo ....lolzzz

Men born and raised here do not have the same values as men born and raised in PK. There are many things that they don't gte a chance to learn while kids in PK learn that from surroundings, family friends, cousins, neighbors etc. They don't have the same values, cultural and religious identity, language, etc. as men from PK do. Having said that, am not saying that men who are born and raised here are trash, they probably have some other plus points.

It also depends where the gal was born and raised. The one from the West may want to consider sm1 from here but those who were born and raised (for most part of their life) in Pk may find guys from there more compatible. But again education, personality etc also matters.

I think a " Gora" wud be the best solution ....lolzzz. I wud personaly want sm1 from PK considering he considers wife as a life partner and not a thing for his use and comfort.

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I agree with you :k: nice to know someone else who also thinks like me :slight_smile:

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Sara u r so cute :hugz: But its ok if Impulse wants to know :slight_smile:

Impulse my fiance cheated on me for several months with another girl. But i didnt know this until he walked out on me a week before the wedding without any explanation at all :slight_smile:

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wat an ass

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Dushwari ..... as many guppies mentioned above that you'd find good and bad people from both groups, i'd say the same. However, one specific feature (mostly found in) Desi guys is to have control over woman. So, just beware of those control freaks. I have seen well-educated guys with such attitude even though they have been in the west for some time.

You really need to evaluate on person-to-person basis. May be ask some male friend (who u trust) to spend some time with that guy and check him at various places. From religious sources, i know two tips on evaluating someone's character. One is to travel with him and other to watch him how does he react when he's mad/angry (in other words 'gussey ke halat mein').

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