Re: Who is better: Pakistani Muslim young men bornthere/ raised here or born in the West?
From Personal Experiences!
Usually guys from back home cannot seem to go along with girls from the west that well.
For exmample! This friend of mine got married not to long ago. Her husband is from Pakistan. Guy has major behavior issue, thinks he is on high horse, has a huge ego issue and even disrespect her parents from time to time. She is going through a lot of emotional drama but she is willing to accept it and go forward. I am not sure how far their relationship is going to go to me it seems like she is the only one who gives in.
Another couple! They were nikahed only. Guy started to show his true self over the course of few months. Girl was basically raised here. After listening to some crap she decided to back out. It was sort of appearing guy was trying to go through everything because of US citizenship.
This old friend of mine! She was raised here but her father got her married to a man in Pakistan who happend to be a doctor. He did come here. Father is well off they even bought them a house and a car. Their marriage lasted good 2-3 years only. She is back in her mother's house for past good 2 years. Her son is old enough to go to school now.
A girl from back home!
This baji that i know was born and raised in Pakistan. Bhai lived here. She slowly and slowly molded bhai from being a Jhatka meat eater to a very good Muslim man. They been married for good 9 years at this point and mashallah she is so happy :)
A little different example!
Another couple! Girl was born and raised here and Guy was mainly raised in Pakistan did go to a highschool here. But didn't go forward after highschool degree. Girl wanted to go a head study and become something. Guy wanted her to sit back home and take care of house. Their marriage ended with curses and a lot of hatred. Marriage only lasted for 3 years.
So as you can see its a mix sort of a thing. I personally simply cannot get along with a guy from back home. I know how i am etc. I would not even get along with a ABCD either. I need a Pure Pakistani born there, raised for few years back home and spent rest of his life abroad [with citizenship- so i know for sure he isnt gonig to marry me for citizenship through me]. I do need him to have understanding of both American and Western culture. The most important thing is Religion. I do need him to be a good Muslim at the same time. I dont mind a FOB :D