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All addictions are bad not just this one. But well apart from the addiction part. Its bad for your health, thats what I remember reading. Bad for your body.
This is a fallacy.
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my wife got so confused when she found out i want her to take the lead..
shes my wife and theres nothing to judge her on this. plus it makes me feel good that i am wanted :D
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my wife got so confused when she found out i want her to take the lead..
shes my wife and theres nothing to judge her on this. plus it makes me feel good that i am wanted :D
I just wanted to understand how it is seen from the male perspective and the female one.
Emotions are almost always attached to it for women. I would think It builds closeness. It's special. If there is a woman that can be how men are then she's been hurt to the point of numbness.
For men, it can be done without emotions and enjoyed and forgotten. Definitely not a generalization because there are exceptions but looking at the responses here that's the impression I got.
Not all guys feel the way you do. There is a lot of judgment. Scarlet "A" if there is negative judgment or is seen as an indication of experience level.
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I just wanted to understand how it is seen from the male perspective and the female one.
Emotions are almost always attached to it for women. I would think It builds closeness. It's special. ** If there is a woman that can be how men are then she's been hurt to the point of numbness. ** For men, it can be done without emotions and enjoyed and forgotten. Definitely not a generalization because there are exceptions but looking at the responses here that's the impression I got.
Not all guys feel the way you do. There is a lot of judgment. Scarlet "A" if there is negative judgment or is seen as an indication of experience level.
The bit in bold is not true.. A lot (if not most) women do link sex with feelings but the ones who don't necessarily have something 'wrong' with them.. There are women out there who naturally have traits more commonly found in the opposite gender and vice versa.. Life is not so black and white, GG.. People are complex beings and there aren't always straightforward answers when it comes to how and why we behave the way we do..
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Desi men are no different than any other man when it comes to who initiates....is that true? I would think desi men are more traditional in their thinking. Traditional as in the man asks the woman obliges or doesn't oblige.
I was talking with a guy friend and the topic of initiating in a relationship came up. In a marriage, a man always prefers to initiate romance or intimacy, if a woman initiates, she wouldn't be seen in a good light. Are all men different when it comes to being the initiators or are certain things like this pretty standard across the board for men.
Within a marriage initiating by either husband or wife is all good. They both have that right over each other.
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The bit in bold is not true.. A lot (if not most) women do link sex with feelings but the ones who don't necessarily have something 'wrong' with them.. There are women out there who naturally have traits more commonly found in the opposite gender and vice versa.. Life is not so black and white, GG.. People are complex beings and there aren't always straightforward answers when it comes to how and why we behave the way we do..
so there are even women out there that can have sex like a robot? Isn't there a rule by protitutes that no kissing can happen, which can imply that kissing is a very emotional thing. Or I might be totally wrong abt that.......
I did say that there are exceptions in my post and it wasn't meant to be a generalization but can I say that even Samantha Jones fell in love with two men and they hurt her with infidelity and that's why she doesn't believe in love but believes in lots of lovers.
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^But they do sometimes kiss their customers if they find them attractive, don't they? Not that I'm an expert on prostitutes or anything lol.. Pornstars kiss as well.. Again, not that I'm an expert, just pointing out that it's not necessarily an emotional connect.. Teenagers often randomly get off with each other too, don't they.. There are girls out there who are highly sexual and like the pleasure and enjoyment they get from it over the person they're actually doing it with.. I don't know the whole story behind Samantha but there are others out there who sleep around simply because they're nymphomaniacs (not that you need to be a nymphomaniac to not get attached during sex/intimacy).. Like I said people are complex beings..
I really think you're overanalyzing GG.. You should relax a bit and not worry so much about 'what ifs'.. just bear in mind we're all wired slightly differently :D
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Isn't there a rule by protitutes that no kissing can happen, which can imply that kissing is a very emotional thing. Or I might be totally wrong abt that
Someone has been watching Pretty Woman :D
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Global Gal you are quite naive when it comes to birds and bees. Listen to the two girls they know a lot more.
And badabing you know a lot less behaviour & biology than you purport.
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I can almost publish "Evening Special" tabloid out of this thread. Lot of chatkhara material, zero legit information.