Who Initiates

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Re: Who Initiates

@GlobalGal

Desi men are no different than any other man when it comes to who initiates…is that true? I would think desi men are more traditional in their thinking. Traditional as in the man asks the woman obliges or doesn’t oblige.

I was talking with a guy friend and the topic of initiating in a relationship came up. In a marriage, a man always prefers to initiate romance or intimacy, if a woman initiates, she wouldn’t be seen in a good light. Are all men different when it comes to being the initiators or are certain things like this pretty standard across the board for men.

@htmwrites

I find this very curious. Why would a woman be looked at in a bad light if she initiated something in her marriage? She’s his wife.. she has the right to do so. I’m confused.

@htmwrites

Ahhh. Ok..that kind if makes sense I guess.

So what you’re saying is..desi men say she should hold off on her urges for the 20 something years BEFORE her marriage (which makes sense) and then when she gets married, she should hold her urges AFTER marriage…what? Lmao ok my bad. Desi women are supposed to be saints. What on earth was I thinking. We are just mechanical beings that function on instruction lol

@htmwrites

sigh I’m never going to understand our desi culture. Can’t run from it, can’t embrace it completely. Yay for us. The guy is insecure yet the woman has to face the consequences for wanting to do something i would think is normal. Now i have to rethink everything i’ve ever thought about concerning marriage. Whoopdidu.

Some people are trolling you and you believe them. This is not the case at all.

Desi men are humans too and they appreciate love, like anyone else.

Now I don’t want to be too explicit.