Re: who believes in kismet
See if you break off a married relationship over petty reasons then your being very unreasonable. You have the power to stay calm, not nit pick and create problems, learn to get along. If you refuse to it will cause tension, and may eventually lead to u guys never speaking to each other again. It is a result of your own actions which lead to ur kismat.
Allah says that if you do good things then there will be barkat in evrything you do, this can also be seen as good kismat. So i suppose you can say in a way you are responsible for your own kismat by keeping the barkat flowing thru ur life. If youre doing the right thing, leave everything else up to allah and his decisions.
Nadz i use a diferent type of philosophy to add to this.. it may get more complex... When we eat, every grain of rice every tiny bit of food is already written for a person i.e in their kismat. So if im due to go to coffee with u and something happens then i believe it was never meant to be. Like that simple tiny coffee was not in my kismat. I go to the most basic of things.
If i desperatly wna go to pakistan, and parents dont let me then my khana isnt written there untill i do go.. sounds really childish an i myt get taken the mic outta for it lol but honestly thats how i think. Evry tiny little thing is predetermined... were running along thinking worrying that what if this and what if that but aslong as youre living ur life by making rational decisions and doing good evrything shud be oryt.
U see when i was havin my nikkah, i didnt know him (still dont really lol) but anyway i totally left it to kismat. If it was to happen it wud if it wasnt written it wudnt. Simple. Im not saying that walk into things blindly, jump off a cliff and say if i am to die i will if im not god will save me. With this concept you have to take into account COMMON SENSE. The guy my parents wanted me to marry wasnt langra or cross eyed or whatever else problems u can have with ppl, i found him attractive, he was educated and from what cousins have told me hes a shareef guy whose decent so i didnt have a reason to say no to him.
Believe in kismat YES but also make use of common sense
i hope ive made sense to you here lol sometimes ive got so much to say that i stop making sense and dnt get point across clearly enuf