do you believe you make your own, or its set out for you already, especially when it comes to who you marry, love, leave, end up with, etc. if you love someone else, but marry someone else, is this kismet or your own choice…
i know some things can be blamed on ur own choices, and some on kismet and destiny, which category is the above…
and does everything really happen for the best? even your own stupidty that leads to those happenings…
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Im a big believer in fate and destiny. I think everything is pre-determined but the way to reaching those significant things is based upon the choices you make along the way 
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Kismat Konnection. That's what I have to say. Some things are just out of your control and up to Kismat.
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i believe in kismet 100%
and the person u are to marry is always written before ur even born... its ur actions in life which determine how successful it actually is
Dont worry nadz.. i didnt know my fiance, i left it all to allah coz i knew its all pre determined.
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what about people that get married and get divorced...was that kismat.....what about the person you truly loved but let go..was that kismet...
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I would say so yes. But remember evryone will be judged by their own actions. If somone does wrong by u in the marriage for example beating, islam doesnt encourage you to sit there and take it. If that sort of situation leads to divorce then it could be kismat... Allah would be testing your patience. Remember this life is a test and evryting bad that may happen is written. You just gotta learn to accept it, make the most of a bad situation and do shukar that he didnt make it any worse.
Your always in a better position then others. Trust me. Evryone has thier own fair share of problems and allah tests everyone in different ways.
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but am not talking about divorce cos of beatings...i mean just divorce over other issues.....is it kismet that you marry certain people, and is it kismet that you dont marry certain people even if you love someone alot but dont mary them.....am i making sense...:/
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I agree with Lady Lama. For instance your husband cheats on you and starts drinking, that's kismat and you have to think what to do now. Some times it's in your hands sometimes not. Lady Lama I wish everyone thought like you. I am going to save your post in my blog if you don't mind. I really liked the last two sentences.
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Nadz… girl you need a tranquiliser shot!!! 
I can’t wait to see your beautiful wedding pics in Life4 in the coming weeks/months… all that worrying for nothing eh 
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LOL maroushy. Nadz don't worry mate. Everything will go fine inshallah.
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LOL LOL LOL
seriously though :/
I agree with Lady Lama. For instance your husband cheats on you and starts drinking, that's kismat and you have to think what to do now. Some times it's in your hands sometimes not. Lady Lama I wish everyone thought like you. I am going to save your post in my blog if you don't mind. I really liked the last two sentences.
nope go for it i shall be honoured =D =D
nadz i was just giving the beating thing as an example. If it is other issues, as long as your not creating them or being unreasonable then your doing your job right. If it is drinking or cheating as aisha suggested the other person will be questioned seperatly for their own actions.
Life isnt a bed of roses, and im not gonna lie and say evrything will be perfect coz there will be times where you hold your head and cry wondering what if this or what if that BUT just remember there will also be times where your gonna love where your at and what your doing, Youll find times where youre over the moon and totally happy.
Gotta take the good with the bad otherwise how else wud we appreciate sunny skies without no rain clouds??
chin up and smile darling. Everything will be oryt =)
xxx
but am not talking about divorce cos of beatings...i mean just divorce over other issues.....is it kismet that you marry certain people, and is it kismet that you dont marry certain people even if you love someone alot but dont mary them.....am i making sense...:/
i 100% without a shred of doubt believe its ALL kismat. Honestly i do
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There is a reason someone is in your past. That is not fate, it is not destiny.. it is common sense.
And as long as the person you are marrying is a good, decent, honourable man the the humm-dil-de-chuke wala hadsa (re ajay devgan :P) is more than probable.
Our memories of our past are like myths we hold onto. Rarely true-to-life.
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someone could be in your past, due to your own stupidty of letting them go,,when in fact they couldve been the one /.....??
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naah. if that was the case. they wouldve come back to you a long long long time ago. and the ONE is the person you choose. There is no predestined soul-mate.
There are a billion people in china alone. I think thats at least 20 soul mates there by sheer probability
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I believe in kismat but I believe in hard working and effort too. Kismat is there for us we can only reshape the path to the happenings in their best way by working hard and putting our best effort in it.
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no imo..
Its the person we chose to marry. Based on their personality, our compatibility, family, chemistry and other such.
Whether it works or not is also up to the people in the relationship, not voodoo/star stuff
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^ what about laylatul qadr? the night of power?? aka night of predestination, where allah determines your fate for the following year???