Re: White chicks
Lets see now, some of our desi girls, who are born and raised here, and to them, it seems cool to mock those that came here afterwards and call them fobs or freshies, and then whine about how they dont end up being friends with these guys. If this is not insecurity, what is?
For white chicks, these guys are people who are from other countries most of them coming here for college etc, bring great diversity et al to their country and would make good friends, and HENCE they deserve their friendship, quite simple.
See, I don't know why you'd think I'm whining. Typical self-centerism that desi guys have. Not every desi girl is dying to be your friend.
Friendship is a two way street. If you expect someone to be normal with you, you probably need to be normal with them. I agree with Amana, that we desis have a lot of cultural baggage. I probably do have a lot of cultural baggage as well, as probably the guy that I'm speaking to. But if one of us is not willing to make the effort, but the other is, there wont be a friendship.
Now, if I was not even making an effort to be nice, I could say "hey, PCG, you're being a total prude". But the fact is that I talk to everyone. And its pretty much always the desis who keep their distance. Maybe its this campus or something, but the desi pakistanis here are not united at all. I guess its general distrust accumulated over years of bad experiences.
And another key piece of the puzzle is the muslim / desi organization here. Its very divided and you have different camps, and if there isn't a moment that goes by where people aren't getting on each others' cases, I swear. That probably factors into it too. Most of us are at a point where we see another Pakistani or Arab and we're like "Blegh, not again".