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when i said “women shouldnt approach men”…obviously it means she shouldnt approach at all…i am just not too comfertable…khair ager irada naik hai to phir its ok i guess
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do you mean by any chance that “flirting” is a disrespectful act towards the other?
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Well if she knows him and has honest intentions of marrying him and has no elder or trust worthy person who can approach him on her behalf, I think yes she can.
Yes along those lines.
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LOL reeeeeally? so all the WOMEN should approach their uncles when they want a man? and all the MEN should approach the woman who they want? hmm… that’s delicious 
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MQ the question is about approach. That is how you put it forward. I would expect both if a woman approached me. But i would want to know her first (that comes in the issue respect).
For marriage you need it all. But for the first apporach how will you know if someone is interested in you if they do not flirt or do not tell you? Respect does not denote how someone feels about you emotionally or romantically. Respect is the foundation for any relationship. But flirting denotes the extra desire to be intimate.
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MQ, please tell me what you would call a “respectful approach”. I mean which way of approach would it be?
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CM if it is about the first approach then if personally somebody came and started flirting with me I would slap him to the North Pole. 
By the respectful approach I mean, the other person should be nice. They should find out about the person they are approaching. Flirting should come way later if they plan to have a relationship such as marriage or what have you.
If somebody comes and starts flirting right off the bat, how does that show that he/she cares or is interested in a genuine manner? And why can’t they tell you they are interested without flirting about it?
Religiously, the guy should be a bit distant yet nice, and should get the families involved. And the like, you know what I mean.
As for generally, in other words if I wasnt a Muslim, or how I feel about my friends who date and such. I would say the guys/girls should get to know each other. before bringing the whole flirting aspect into it.
(ps long time no see how are you)
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yeh madam..i said if iraday naik hain to phir its all good
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So would I :p
See there is the difference. I don't see flirting as the first step to a relationship. I see it as the second or third step. Getting to know the person first personally is important. But that is not respect. Respect is only possible after they know you. You can not respect a person without knowing them.
The stages are:
- Get to know them.
- Figure out if you like them.
- Flirt and await a response.
- Respect mutual admiration and longevity come here
- Marriage.
Respect as it has been defined here does not show you want to get initmate with a person. I would really like to know how medic defines what is respectful and what is flirting, because the old wanker can be very dodgy :D
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Ok and I WAS talking about first approaches !!!
It’s not possible to hold the same respect upon meeting a person, then it is after you know them. However there has to be a great level of respect on the first approach. And either it increases to its full potential as you get to know them or it diminishes to nothing.
We’re talking about the first stage !!
The flirting should come way later after the parties decide they wish to get serious.
I know what maddy has in mind. He’ll bring up the whole issue of what we see as “flirting”. 
Haan jee theek baat.
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Friendly and then a bit flirty while being respectful all the time. Flirty, not as in wolf whistling, flirty as in subtle flirting. Say... like the flirting going on in this thread right now. :p
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Well firstly a random guy coming up to you and flirting is not the first approach. He wants to know if he can get any or are you easy. That is not the first approach.
If a guy wants to get to know you the first approach is undertaken after a serious level of background research. Family, likes - dislikes, connections and introductions. That way you get to know of the person and then you make your first approach.
The first approach will always be flirting because you want to denote something more than friendship. If you want to be just friends respect is fine. For that something extra you have flirting.
Medic is a hippo. He will change his opinion to what the girl agrees with :p
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I agree with all you said , except the above.
CBio I have taken up art. And respect is an art. Flirting is not. 
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MQ, are you flirting with me?
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Ok then how do you show someone you are interested romantically by being respectful and not flirting :p
LOL! I have to side with CB on this MQ :p
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I thought I would practice for the future.
Ha! You know when they tell you. Or you tell them. How else. Otherwise you can’t ever be 100% if you are right or not. They/you have to confirm it.
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Sayy, I think teaching is a hot profession MQ. ;)
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LOL. Excuse you but since when did you come up with that idea? :p That is dropping a bombshell on a person. They have to confirm it but how do you know they are interested and not playing games? :p
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so much more to flirting than i thought. may be arrange marriage isnt such a bad thing after all. I mean all this getting to know and than aiming to flirt is confusing. Say in getting to know you end up changing your mind and the other person starts the flirting deal then what? or better yet you might just not be able to help and start flirting between 1 and 2 ? mixed signals and you end up with a very gorafied problem.
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I totally do not subscribe to that. Each relationship should start with respect. It does not necessarily mean that you need to respect the views that you don’t know, but it means you need to start respecting other person’s individuality.
Flirting or not, depends from person to person. I would not base a relationship on flirting.