Ok questions for you all.
If you’re a male/female how would you prefer somebody of the opposite gender to approach you?
Would you like it if they were flirty? Or would you prefer it if they were more serious in… a more respectful manner?
And if you’re doing the approaching, which manner would you use?
We’re talking of first impressions, and also into a friendship/relationship what have you.
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Nothing serious works for me. It has to be full fledge flirting if you want my attention. By 'you' I mean any girl and not particularly you.
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Definately prefer serious.
I mentally label flirty girls as being dirty bimbos undeserving of my attention even as just a friend.
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Refrains from making any comments :p
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FG – Er ok.
Maddy – wow thats exactly how I think!!! I think that a person should give respect, and that respect is more or less the foundation of a relationship/friendship - rather then flirting.
CM – why? 
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Because it a weird answer. Respect is fine. But respect to a large extent is emotionless. Flirting conveys a wide range of alternate emotions that are in some ways more important than respect.
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Approach has to be straight forward and girl gotta be presentable, but looking for someone who can Blow your brains off ;)
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Does it now?
When you respect somebody you are going to respect their feelings. Feelings based on respect are strong and considered valuable. At least in my views.
Flirting and feelings behind simple flirting are in my view, time pass. Or cheap.
Flirting and respect BOTH have emotions behind them. Respect is not devoid of emotional feelings. Depends which ones one would prefer.
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Flirting that brings a smile on other person's face is not cheap. Some idiots don't know how to flirt and make it very uncomfortable for the flirtee. Those flirters should be hung up by their tongues.
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Well it depends what the other person wants. What if you go and start flirting with somebody who finds it annoying/cheap and you end up insulting them?
Plus how hard is it to bring a smile to somebodys face while being friendly and “respectful”?
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Respect denotes a level of distance. Flirting breaks that barrier. Both are needed in a relationship.
Respect denotes in my mind the longevity of a relationship as well as the social and emotional linkages between two individuals. But it shows the level of distance between friends and a wife. Flirting denotes the level of intimacy and some may say comfort between two. It also i suspect holds a much higher level of comfort and emotional attachment or affection.
After all affection, intimacy and emotional dependence are not parts of respect. They are very much linked to flirting.
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How does respect relate to distance? By respect, I mean if you were to approach a female you would be friendly, but you would not flirt. You would get to know her based on respect. That she is important and matters, not just somebody you can approach in an even mildly sexual manner of any sorts.
I think you're mixing up a lot of other feelings with flirting.
affection and intimacy come through the friendship/relationship. Not the flirting.
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"Flirting is not all about sex" - FG, circa 2000
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^ really? Hazrat Khadija tul Qubra approached the man she wanted to marry.
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True they do. But there is a very large difference between affection and intimacy in a friendship and in a relationship. Flirting denotes that change. Friends do not flirt. They do respect each other.
Friends have respect. So do people in a relationship. But flirting is the key thing that changes that. Flirting is the method by which humans say they want something more, and normally that something more is not additional respect. It is emotional dependence, affection and intimacy. You can't get that with respect.
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well I didnt say whether they should or shouldnt . 
fg I know its not always all sexual.
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i knew someone would bring that....i believe she did not approach him directly.....Her uncle brought the proposal to the Prophet (pbuh&up)
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CM
Well of course the difference between the significant other and just a friend is the "passion " - I'm not sure if it is the correct term to use but what the heck.
But I'm interested in why you think one can't base it on respect. Because hubby/wife relationships have passion, they have the extra stuff that they dont have with others. But why would you think they cant be affectionate if they base their approach on respect?
Friends respect each other but do not flirt.
But significant others can respect each other "then" flirt? In my mind Im still thinking about "first" approaches.