Where to draw a line???

[Deeba1234]

Re: Where to draw a line???

And what do the parents deserve? I think parents deserve love, respect, care and physical and financial support - but balanced support so that no one in the family goes without.

Nicely put..

Some ppl always seem have this attitude of it must be something v something else..

Living with parents v shoving them into a nursing home

Supporting parents v supporting wife
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Is it really that hard to compromise or be objective?**

[Ramsha]

Re: Where to draw a line???

And what do the parents deserve? I think parents deserve love, respect, care and physical and financial support - but balanced support so that no one in the family goes without.

And let's look at the example of the 47-year old dad who retired so his son can support him. Is this dad working so he can financially support his own parents or does he expect his son to support the grandparents as well? What happened to a "son's" obligation here?

Thanks you! btw, in that case the grandmother lives with the family and the grandson is supporting all.

[ShahreyarKhan]

Re: Where to draw a line???

i did not say other wise

I think parents deserve love, respect, care and physical and financial support - but balanced support so that no one in the family goes without.

[Sara516]

Re: Where to draw a line???

And what about parents who take away from their own kids to support extended family members?

If a child were to always come as a last priority, if they lived in cramped apartments eating dollar store food and clothes and stuff while their own family members lived decent lifestyles on THEIR Parents money…those parents just took away their kids’ rights didn’t they? So what do those kids owe their parents later on? Those kids didn’t exactly ask to be born.

Our people need to get out of this thinking that you have a child as a form of social security.

And so that I don’t come off as a monster :halo: I think these posts illustrate my point perfectly.

@Chameli420

Most of all I feel bad cuz their financial situation is so bad that they are lacking behind in everything. while I am saving for a new house and stuff..am I being wrong? why am I feeling bad about fulfilling my dreams when I have already helped them earlier on but due to their lack of planning they keep falling into the same financial burden…I want to save now so that I can be home with the kids later on. if i give away my savings I have to start all over again and wont be able to spend time with the kids in their young age…my parents dont know about my saving though but they do know that hubby and I are quiet well-off …

@ShahreyarKhan

you have to remember when tomorrow your kids grow up you shouldnt give then a chance to complain mom dad because you gave all your savings away we dont have this or that (an extreme but still)

you should help your sister financial but create a balance between what is your kids/family’s right and what you should give to your relatives

@Sara516

Think of it this way…as a child, if your parents prioritized their own siblings/extended family members over you and your siblings…do you remember how it felt? If it felt unfair and wrong? If so…then don’t put your kids through the same thing.

Being a good child is important but its more important to be a good and responsible parent…and prioritizing other relatives over own immediate family’s needs is irresponsible.