Where should a girl live if her husband has passed away?
In her susraal or her parents home or on her own?
PS:Clad’s thread se
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If I were like the girl in Clad's thread....i think i'd prefer to live on my own with my kids...and not be a burden to anyone. It would be more convenient to live in a location where it's easier to interact with both sets of grandparents...although that's not always possible. Also, how we end up acting in a situation can be differ from how we imagine we would.
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I think its depent on her that which place provide her protction and shelter for her or if she have kids
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depends upon her susraal and parents home. Whoever is more supportive (in all aspects) and can give better environment to her and her kids.
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On my own and if not...with my parents. Susraal would be my last resort.
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She should live in a house. Preferably one where she has her own life.
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what if the guys parents want to keep the kids?what do you do then?
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You sell them off!!
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you can’t leave sarcasm for a while can you 
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Susraal becuase that is a girl's house and that where she belongs and also that's where children belong to.
Going back to parents could be trouble sometime, for example, if you have a brother who is married and live with parents then you will his wife to deal with it and your nephews and neices.
Therefore it's better to stay in Susraal if no trouble with them otherwise move separately
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a susraal is NOT her house after her husband has passed away.
She married her husband who is no longer there.
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In her house.
If she does no have one or cant afford one then with Parents.
I dont see any reason to live in susral.
Susraal becuase that is a girl's house and that where she belongs and also that's where children belong to.
Going back to parents could be trouble sometime, for example, if you have a brother who is married and live with parents then you will his wife to deal with it and your nephews and neices.
Therefore it's better to stay in Susraal if no trouble with them otherwise move separately
The children are not her susraal's mil'ki'yat. If it is her desire to live alone with her children or with her parents, that should be her decision. As is the decision to live with her in-laws, if that is where she believes she will be happy.
The key is that her life should go on after her husband's death and she shouldn't be cross-examined about her actions. She should strive to maintain a positive relationship with her in-laws as her in-laws and the grandparents to her children - but they are not her keepers.
what if the guys parents want to keep the kids?what do you do then?
This decision should be left on the girl because she is the mother and only she has the right to decide where should her kids live.
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Sehrysh,
I think you have misunderstood me here. I didn't say that Susraal are the keepers.
Her Husband's house is her house and she should live their independently
Also at the same time children need grand parents and vice versa, both have right to see each other.
The girl should be independent and depending on her age and if she can find suitable match she should re-marry but that's another debate.
But ultimate decision lies with the girl, what's best for her and her children. Because she knows her susraal, what type of people they are and their attitude before her husband passed away and their attitude after he passed away.
It also depends on the timing when you make this decision too, a girl has lost life partner but parents have lost a part oftheir life too. When making these kind of decisions we need to be considerate.
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What about a lady who is almost 60 years “young” (cant say old 
) whose susral ( Saas / sussar) and even her parents are even alive and his husband passed away. Although her kids are grown up.
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Government housing is best unless husband left good sum.
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This is one of the reasons why all women should be financially independent or at least have the capability to be so.
This is one of the reasons why all women should be financially independent or at least have the capability to be so.
Actually, they should be completely independent, shadi karney ki zaroroat hi kya hai, khamkhwa ki tension kayko leney ka?
Actually, they should be completely independent, shadi karney ki zaroroat hi kya hai, khamkhwa ki tension kayko leney ka?
Phr b tension hi tension... "mujhy baby chahye" pata nhi kb khatam hogi ye tension.......!