Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

[geminifromkhi]

Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

I wonder if I am asking for too much…a decent looking guy who is as educated or more educated than I am. arghhh. this rishta process sucks. Its such a gamble.

[OYMWA]

Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

@geminifromkhi

I have a very stupid question but what makes a girl desirable even after, say, 26. I know beauty counts. For instance, which guy here wont prefer Katrina Kaif over an average younger girl?

I dont; she blinks like a tubelight in emotional scenes. Hate it!

[htmwrites]

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@OYMWA

I dont; she blinks like a tubelight in emotional scenes. Hate it!

lmao.. tubelight..good one

[OYMWA]

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@Ess_Emm

a drop dead gorgeous girl who also happens to cook like Julia Child

… and not the other way around, mind you..shudder

[AnnaKarenina]

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@geminifromkhi

I have a very stupid question but what makes a girl desirable even after, say, 26. I know beauty counts. For instance, which guy here wont prefer Katrina Kaif over an average younger girl?

While physical attraction is important in a marriage, it’s very subjective and most guys aren’t just looking for a beautiful girl. They want someone who’s mature and intelligent as well. Someone over 26 has been to university and worked is far more experienced in life and mature than an 18 year old girl. Most girls I know don’t look “old” at 26 or any less beautiful than" younger" girls.

[Ess_Emm]

Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

@OYMWA

… and not the other way around, mind you..shudder

LOL! She had a very happy marriage with her husband. He absolutely adored her. So I guess it could go both ways

@geminifromkhi

Umm where did I say that? My only point is that some people above said , and I have noticed too, that rishtas stop coming when you are 27 or above. Even if the guy is 30 above, 27 is consider old. Which is obviously stupid and unfair. So I was only asking how can a girl still remain desirable at, say, 27? I mean I dont want to rush into marriage just because my time is running out. And I have a question for guys. If there is a girl who is 21, 22 but pretty average and on the other hand there is an older girl who you find attractive, who will you marry?

You said you wanted a Kuch Kuch Hota Hai guy… You know. Like SRK’s role in that movie…

In all seriousness, in this day and age, from what I’ve seen…guys don’t necessarily want a girl that is young and pretty. That’s not the only criteria. They want an educated, smart girl, who can carry herself, and like I said above, can hold a conversation. Who knows how to handle a household, but is also well versed in outside the house stuff. BUT…the caveat in our culture is, that it’s the guy’s mom or sister or khala or bhabi or chachi or whoever who is selecting the rishta. And they go with what’s visible…her looks, and her education (which could be a bald faced lie but that’s another topic for another day.) But the guy doesn’t have a say in anything until the girl is short listed by the baray of the family. All the girl in a chai trolley situation can hope to do is talk like an educated person, so the baray can then pass that information along to the guy.

[MustafaQuraishi]

Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

@geminifromkhi

I have a very stupid question but what makes a girl desirable even after, say, 26. I know beauty counts. For instance, which guy here wont prefer Katrina Kaif over an average younger girl?

from a guy’s perspective, there are millions of girls which are pretty and yes younger than magic number 25. But being a realistic, all those 25 aren’t the one a guy would want to be marry. I agree and strongly favor the fact the next person (doesn’t matter if its a girl or a guy) has to be pretty to at least have first 2-3 conversation (come on, I don’t want to look at a horrible person on my frsit meeting). After couple of years, that beauty fades away. What is left is the intelligence, sense of humor, maturity and how much willing the next person are to make the compromises in the relationship.

That being said, If you are living in pakistan then 27 is really old for a girl no matter how beautiful you are or how educated you are. The only thing that can save you then is having a well educated family who doesn’t give a damn about the society. Otherwise, best of luck!

[tubelight]

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Did someone mention my name in here ?

[OYMWA]

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@tubelight

Did someone mention my name in here ?

Yeah… you and Katrina Kaif..in the same sentence. Mubarak ho!

[Paheli00]

Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

Its ridiculous for you to feel too “shy” to talk to your mother or another female in the family (older cousin, aunt whatever) and let them know that you want to be able to talk to the guy someone a few times (either in person, phone or online) before saying “yes” to a rishta. You’re not a teenager! You’re an adult. Act like it.

@geminifromkhi

There were other reasons too. For instance, one mom said she wont allow me to work after marriage. Another mom was throwing a lot of tantrums even before she came, and after we said no, she got all sweet and easy going. Basically I am a pretty straight forward person, and I really dont want to get stuck with such hypocrites.

@geminifromkhi

I wonder if I am asking for too much…a decent looking guy who is as educated or more educated than I am.

You want more than a decent looking guy and who is more educated than you. You also want someone who will be ok with you working, whose parents aren’t hypocrites and I imagine a host of other things. Rejecting a guy b/c they want a house-wife b/c you insist on working is fine…there is clearly a difference in values here. But don’t refuse to meet someone b/c you don’t feel a spark. Don’t say “no” just b/c his education level is not the same as you IF he has a good job. In those cases, meet the guy!

Part of finding a spouse is investment of time. Most people who date, generally end up dating several people over the years before finding the right person. People going through arranged route usually have to go through multiple “meetings” and talk to several people before saying yes to one. This is a major decision for your life that will require more time and effort than looking at pictures and learning his resume. You have nothing to lose by taking the time to meet some of these guys. If after the meeting you feel that you two aren’t compatible based on values and expectations for the future…then say no.

You should not get married for the sake of getting married. But you need start being more practical when you comes to these rishtas. Focus on what’s more important for the long run. For example…if you find a guy who is average looking, has a great job and make a good income, your personality matches with his, his parents seem nice and they’re ok with you working after marriage…does it really matter that his education level isn’t the same as yours? Really sit down and think about what’s going to make a difference in your life 10 years from now when it comes to the guy.

@geminifromkhi

So I was only asking how can a girl still remain desirable at, say, 27?

All you can do is take care of yourself (looks and health) as much as you can. Keep working and have hobbies. Don’t become bitter and remain practical. Living in Pakistan you already know how the rishta scenes work for girls once they’re past 27/28. That doesn’t mean that you won’t get ANY rishtas after that…just that the # of rishtas will be less, and you may have to make more compromises.

[queer]

Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

@geminifromkhi

I just want someone I find attractive, and who is more educated or at least as educated as I am.

and you no find this persan yet why? prhaps you the like not guys. yes?

[geminifromkhi]

Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

@Ess_Emm

LOL! She had a very happy marriage with her husband. He absolutely adored her. So I guess it could go both ways

You said you wanted a Kuch Kuch Hota Hai guy… You know. Like SRK’s role in that movie…

In all seriousness, in this day and age, from what I’ve seen…guys don’t necessarily want a girl that is young and pretty. That’s not the only criteria. They want an educated, smart girl, who can carry herself, and like I said above, can hold a conversation. Who knows how to handle a household, but is also well versed in outside the house stuff. BUT…the caveat in our culture is, that it’s the guy’s mom or sister or khala or bhabi or chachi or whoever who is selecting the rishta. And they go with what’s visible…her looks, and her education (which could be a bald faced lie but that’s another topic for another day.) But the guy doesn’t have a say in anything until the girl is short listed by the baray of the family. All the girl in a chai trolley situation can hope to do is talk like an educated person, so the baray can then pass that information along to the guy.

I didnt mean that literally.
I get your point.

[geminifromkhi]

Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

@Paheli00

Its ridiculous for you to feel too “shy” to talk to your mother or another female in the family (older cousin, aunt whatever) and let them know that you want to be able to talk to the guy someone a few times (either in person, phone or online) before saying “yes” to a rishta. You’re not a teenager! You’re an adult. Act like it.

You want more than a decent looking guy and who is more educated than you. You also want someone who will be ok with you working, whose parents aren’t hypocrites and I imagine a host of other things. Rejecting a guy b/c they want a house-wife b/c you insist on working is fine…there is clearly a difference in values here. But don’t refuse to meet someone b/c you don’t feel a spark. Don’t say “no” just b/c his education level is not the same as you IF he has a good job. In those cases, meet the guy!

Part of finding a spouse is investment of time. Most people who date, generally end up dating several people over the years before finding the right person. People going through arranged route usually have to go through multiple “meetings” and talk to several people before saying yes to one. This is a major decision for your life that will require more time and effort than looking at pictures and learning his resume. You have nothing to lose by taking the time to meet some of these guys. If after the meeting you feel that you two aren’t compatible based on values and expectations for the future…then say no.

You should not get married for the sake of getting married. But you need start being more practical when you comes to these rishtas. Focus on what’s more important for the long run. For example…if you find a guy who is average looking, has a great job and make a good income, your personality matches with his, his parents seem nice and they’re ok with you working after marriage…does it really matter that his education level isn’t the same as yours? Really sit down and think about what’s going to make a difference in your life 10 years from now when it comes to the guy.

All you can do is take care of yourself (looks and health) as much as you can. Keep working and have hobbies. Don’t become bitter and remain practical. Living in Pakistan you already know how the rishta scenes work for girls once they’re past 27/28. That doesn’t mean that you won’t get ANY rishtas after that…just that the # of rishtas will be less, and you may have to make more compromises.

Well you are from US wont understand. Thats how stuff works in Pakistan, or at least in my family. Talking to guys on phone before deciding to accept or reject the proposal will raise lots of eye brows here. I belong to a middle class family

[ShimmerV]

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You know at some point in ur life ull end up marrying SK and realize he is ur KKHH wala SRK. InshAllah it’ll happen soon and whenever it does things will automatically start falling into place.

Agar age ka soch kar jaldi kisi se bhi shadi karlogi to zindagi ‘what if’ mein guzar jayegi..

Take ur time & when the right guy comes along u both will not need more then 1 meeting to hit it off, its called chemistry. Credentials aren’t everything

[geminifromkhi]

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@ShimmerV

You know at some point in ur life ull end up marrying SK and realize he is ur KKHH wala SRK. InshAllah it’ll happen soon and whenever it does things will automatically start falling into place.

Agar age ka soch kar jaldi kisi se bhi shadi karlogi to zindagi ‘what if’ mein guzar jayegi..

Take ur time & when the right guy comes along u both will not need more then 1 meeting to hit it off, its called chemistry. Credentials aren’t everything

in sha Allah

[Decent_6Chora]

Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

your kuch kuch hota hai guy has been approached by some other unknown girl on fb

[geminifromkhi]

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@Decent_6Chora

your kuch kuch hota hai guy has been approached by some other unknown girl on fb

Like how rani mukhar jee nabbed sharukh khan in kuch kuch hota hai?