Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?
I think you need to be forthright with your family. When my bro was getting engaged, he only ever looked at my sister in law and finally talked to her after they got engaged. Because that’s just how things were on her side of the family. They didn’t want her to talk to him and i think she was super shy anyway. My bro however, wanted to get to know her. So I helped him out. My bro and i are very close so he was quite open with me about what he wanted in a girl. So every time we would go to their house or they would come over, i would purposely sit next to my bro, opposite to her and chat away from ACROSS the room. haha. I’d ask her all the stuff he wanted to ask her, career, goals, what she liked, disliked…basic stuff that you can normally ask people. That way, he could look at her answering my questions normally without coming across all weird and got to know her slightly as well. He understood the fact that he could never really know her completely without talking to her himself so he just wanted to know the basic stuff. Point being, why don’t you get one of your siblings to do that if you can’t talk to your parents about it? Like if you feel shy or you think your parents might not be comfortable to the fact that you should talk to them, find a way.
Besides, just looking at them and hoping to feel something is not the best way to go about it. That “spark” could be ANYTHING. for example, for me, looks aren’t the most important thing as long as he looks decent. It’s his nature, characteristics, his as we say, uthna bethna and sense of humor.. that’s my spark. Guy’s gotta have charm to sweep me off my feet. You can’t asses charm without talking to someone or at least getting to know someone. Don’t reject them out right. Give people a chance
Unfortunately, my brothers arent like that. I can discuss the beauty of hamza ali abbasi all I want with them, but when it comes to my future husband, I dont think they will be comfortable discussing this topic with me.