Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

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Re: Where is my kuch kuch hota hai guy?

@Paheli00

I think we need to take into account OPs location and lifestyle. I would agree with you 100% if OP lived abroad. But living in Pakistan, and coming from a very conservative family, unfortunately OPs age should concern her. Finding a guy on her own doesn’t seem like a viable option for OP if her family is conservative so she must go through the arranged route. And unfortunately, living in Pakistan, by the time she hits 28/29…the # rishtas she gets will start decreasing as many mother will be searching for younger bahus for their sons. It’s not fair and all but that’s just the reality for a woman living in Pakistan who is dependent on the arranged route to get married. It doesn’t mean she won’t get married at all…just that things will get much harder after 27/28.

OP should definitely wait for a guy who she thinks she will be compatible with. However, at almost 25, for her to even refuse to see the guys in person b/c of his looks FB pics, or education level (if he has a good job despite the education) or b/c she doesn’t feel a “spark” when looking at their picture seems a bit ridiculous.

^ This. There was 0 spark when I saw/met my husband for the first time (not arranged). If I hadn’t given him a chance despite that, I would’ve lost out on a good man.

There were other reasons too. For instance, one mom said she wont allow me to work after marriage. Another mom was throwing a lot of tantrums even before she came, and after we said no, she got all sweet and easy going. Basically I am a pretty straight forward person, and I really dont want to get stuck with such hypocrites.

I have seen cousins and friends who got married just for the sake of getting married, and a lot of them are unhappy. I fear ending up like that. That’s why I am being so picky. But I agree that this isnt very mature or practical of me.

I really dont know what do. After rejecting the last rishta, I was even scolded a lot and I was depressed, but even after that I am sure he was not the one. I hope you guys understand.