I disagree. Take me for example. There have been times when I have been out with some friends (that think I’m a sharif good boy, well I am, now anyway that is) and they will start chatting up girls in a pub. Initially i’d be quite, just assessing the lay of the land - the girls probably thinking why is this guy awkwardly quiet. Once I decide to turn it out, I have my so called “player” friends telling me “badabing, allow it man, let me have one of them!”. Initial impressions can be deceiving!