where have all the men gone?

[mugofcoffee]

Re: where have all the men gone?

@inspiron

mugofcoffee, thankyou very much for your post and your advice, it is very much appreciated.

I dont want a man who has drunk or slept around in the past because i know that will never change, but clubbing/partying in the past i think thats something different…what do you think?

Thanks for the wishes I think its important to try to judge someone from the company they keep, especially at university. By that I mean, only their closest friends, the ones they hang out with 24/7 at university. If someones friends are the type who regularly go out and drink, it will be very naive to think that they can be different. I was fotunate to have a group of friends more like me . I did also get along with people who had different views on alcohol and clubbing but our friendship was obviously limited. Clubbing and partying as a social compulsion is ok and you can enjoy it, too. But going to clubs to get drunk and get some ’ action ’ is something I considered as crossing a certain line as far as I was concerned. From what I have seen once you cross the line it is requires some strength to stop. Most people dont have it and choose to be dishonest instead.