Where does one stay if your husband is out of town?

[us1415]

Re: Where does one stay if your husband is out of town?

@ZareenKhan

Bibi! Pehle gaur c parh lia kare. I was not talking about op’s situation. If you had bothered to read my reply properly, it was directed towards us1415 hence his post was quoted.

my views on op’s situation was also shared but only if you had bothered to read before making all kinds of assumtions.

wohooo! I hope my posts are visible to everyone because what you are making out of them was definately not said. I actually said in op’s situation the mil SHOULD NOT ask the dil to stay at her inlaws keeping the circumstances in mind. Also, i said the same to u that u did right by making sure of your wife’s comfort. HOWEVER yes its super odd for any one with respectful and fine treating parents to say to their wife that you can visit them once a week that too if you want to. Like what the hell? Marriage to u people is all about wife and husband only? What happened to the families on both ends? Do they brought u up only so that you grow up and only care about your feelings? Your emotions?

& and NO boys don’t live at their inlaws so unless u were a ghar jamai, i wouldnt recommend you that either. However visiting them would be a must for you as it should be for your wife.

@ZareenKhan

I am sorry if i offended you! I guess we just belong to two very different schools of thoughts.

Fyi, yes you got it right this time. Yes you can’t order your wife just as you can’t order anyone else either. However, there are certain things you do as human rights and i think, believe that it is per that your wife should visit them, look after them as should you for your inlaws.

No i am not married yet but iA i aspire to do not only this but more once i do get married and only because i feel its the right thing to do.

@ZareenKhan

Just tell me WHERE did i say the wife should live with the inlaws without her husband around? You are arguing with me without knowing what i had said.

I rest my case.

@ZareenKhan

Mr i never said i would stay with my inlaws if my husband is not there living with me in that house! So i have no idea what you refering to.

As you can see I have quoted you above in your discussion with me. You have said that I should have forced my wife to visit my parents once a week when she was waiting for her visa which means I was not there.

With this I rest my case