Where does one stay if your husband is out of town?

[ZareenKhan]

Re: Where does one stay if your husband is out of town?

@us1415

Even though what you wrote should get my blood boiling since you are judging me without knowing me at all but its not because it feels like I am trying to make a kid understand grown up logic. So I would have to be patient and try to make you see where I am coming from.

You are saying that its bad of me to let my wife decide when she wants to visit my parent while I am not there and she has only been married for a month. (Did I get it right this time?)

My logic on this is that my wife married me and I married her. My parents have some obligations of me as well and I need to work on them myself not my wife. Islamically, its not my wife’s duty to be a daughter to my parents, its my duty to be a son to them. If I need someone to take care of my parents, I need to do it myself and if I cannot, I can ask my wife to do me a favor, not order her. (Does it make sense at all?)

Now let me ask you a question: I dont know if you are married but if you are please guide us on how to be perfect in balancing the married life and your’s/his parents.

I am sorry if i offended you! I guess we just belong to two very different schools of thoughts.

Fyi, yes you got it right this time. Yes you can’t order your wife just as you can’t order anyone else either. However, there are certain things you do as human rights and i think, believe that it is per that your wife should visit them, look after them as should you for your inlaws.

No i am not married yet but iA i aspire to do not only this but more once i do get married and only because i feel its the right thing to do.