Where does one stay if your husband is out of town?

us1415 · July 22, 2014, 7:59pm

Re: Where does one stay if your husband is out of town?

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Bibi! Pehle gaur c parh lia kare. I was not talking about op’s situation. If you had bothered to read my reply properly, it was directed towards us1415 hence his post was quoted.

my views on op’s situation was also shared but only if you had bothered to read before making all kinds of assumtions.

wohooo! I hope my posts are visible to everyone because what you are making out of them was definately not said. I actually said in op’s situation the mil SHOULD NOT ask the dil to stay at her inlaws keeping the circumstances in mind. Also, i said the same to u that u did right by making sure of your wife’s comfort. HOWEVER yes its super odd for any one with respectful and fine treating parents to say to their wife that you can visit them once a week that too if you want to. Like what the hell? Marriage to u people is all about wife and husband only? What happened to the families on both ends? Do they brought u up only so that you grow up and only care about your feelings? Your emotions?

& and NO boys don’t live at their inlaws so unless u were a ghar jamai, i wouldnt recommend you that either. However visiting them would be a must for you as it should be for your wife.

Even though what you wrote should get my blood boiling since you are judging me without knowing me at all but its not because it feels like I am trying to make a kid understand grown up logic. So I would have to be patient and try to make you see where I am coming from.

You are saying that its bad of me to let my wife decide when she wants to visit my parent while I am not there and she has only been married for a month. (Did I get it right this time?)

My logic on this is that my wife married me and I married her. My parents have some obligations of me as well and I need to work on them myself not my wife. Islamically, its not my wife’s duty to be a daughter to my parents, its my duty to be a son to them. If I need someone to take care of my parents, I need to do it myself and if I cannot, I can ask my wife to do me a favor, not order her. (Does it make sense at all?)

Now let me ask you a question: I dont know if you are married but if you are please guide us on how to be perfect in balancing the married life and your’s/his parents.