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RV - Well somebody had to say it. :hinna:
Those girls MUST have been pulling your leg.
Chipkoo is never the way. “Chipkoo” is not a cool quality for male, female, child, or animal.
And have you had any real success by being a chipkoo?
Look, Amir Pindi…your problem is that you don’t understand the concept of BALANCE. For a second, just forget about what girls like/want/need. And think about BASIC HUMAN PSYCHOLOGY.
According to basic human psychology…people in GENERAL (MALES AND FEMALES) get turned off by desperation…especially persistent desperation.
When somebody acts like a CHIPKOO (constant over-praising, etc)…they are sending an unconscious message to the world that “I am so desperate that I will resort to over-praising you in order to get you to like me.”
Every situation has an extreme. And when people act in an extreme way…people begin to doubt that person. For example…if you compliment nobody and criticize everyone…that is an extreme situation. And people will assume that you are jealous/bitter. On the other hand, if you compliment toooooooo much…the other person thinks that you are trying too hard and that you want something from them. It appears not only desperate, but also fake.
Trying to maintain a happy medium is the best way to go.
Oh and here is another tip, Amir Pindi: Please work on respecting women and using respectful language when addressing them. Read some of your posts on this thread. You have used the word "trap". Most guys who are good at getting girls…don’t make their **“trapping” **intentions so obvious. **“Trap” **makes it sound like you’re catching an animal. ALSO…you used the word “stupid”. You go overboard with complimenting girls BUT AT THE SAME TIME…you think they are “stupid”. So, you’re displaying double standards and a lack of respect for women.
You go around asking women for tips on how to impress girls…but what you’re failing to use is common sense. I think asking women for tips is not working well for you. So, why don’t you try asking the guys for tips on how to project a more confident image. Or…try ditching the bollywood movies.…and opt for hollywood. Very rarely will you find Tom Cruise/Brad Pitt taking the chipkoo route to land a girl.
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From their mothers, because they make them believe they are gods gift to the earth and could win over any women by just looking at them :) - hell to the no.
Best way to get rid of them is saying youre engaged/married. Or that youre not 'into' men! (This can sometimes back fire LOL) Or walk up to them and say you want to be in a serious relationship with them...and want to meet your future MIL asap...they'll run a mileeee.
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Hey r.v i think u misintrepreted my post.
Read the last lines
^ i learnt everything from u Jaanwaar ::):
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can’t you guys tell I was being silly by creating this thread:omg:
Men are fantastic:@: What would we ever do without them:@:
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Hey r.v i think u misintrepreted my post.
Read the last lines
^ i learnt everything from u Jaanwaar ::):
Pindi......in my opinion you misinterpret yourself. I've read all your posts and you seem to really believe in your self-defeating strategies. You learned NOTHING from Jaanwar. An animal/gorilla is on the right track here! And when that phenomenon happens.......one is clearly** LOST!**
"The buttering and all comes after you know the girl".............LOOK, if you try toooooooo hard to butter a girl that you ALREADY know, that strategy will FLOP as well.
It doesn't matter if the buttering takes place before knowing the girl, after knowing the girl, or whatever...........TOO MUCH OF ANYTHING tends to backfire. Even bosses get disgusted with over flattery!
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You ladies do realize this easily applies to your husbands right?
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^To me it looks more that one has an infatuated ego, one who cannot bear accepting points of view other than thier own. :)
The Girls I interviewed were serious. I Feel it also makes sense, in the sense that the Nasty Looking guys must do something exceptional to pull girls who normally wudnt give them second glances.
and defeating strategies...? Lost me there
I was merely tryng to give an honest but the same time light-hearted contribution to the thread poster.
Jeeez...some ppple
Interviewing girls? omg Gina beyhosh!
CM kidhar thay!? Darfur to Dubai....;)
Amir_Pindi...they lied! Chipku men are annoying.. and so are the clingy ones.. they need to be in a mass grave!
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Darfur...that is why I am on GS.... :(
Yeh I figured! It's alright.. I know u don't have pretty girls and bottled water but smile!
^*To me it looks more that one has an infatuated ego, one who cannot bear accepting points of view other than thier own. *:)
The Girls I interviewed were serious. I Feel it also makes sense, in the sense that the Nasty Looking guys must do something exceptional to pull girls who normally wudnt give them second glances.
and defeating strategies...? Lost me there
I was merely tryng to give an honest but the same time light-hearted contribution to the thread poster.
Jeeez...some ppple
Look, Amir Pindi.........I don't have a problem with acknowledging that another person's views are right. When I visit various threads.....I have no qualms about indicating that I agree with another poster's points.....or even saying that i find another poster's ideas to be great. And before I start typing my own post, often times I will type an acknowledgment that I agree/like someone's post.
Just because I don't agree with your ideas here doesn't make me an ego-inflated/arrogant person. You have mentioned on a few threads about how the "nasty guys" *get the girls and that you don't think they deserve the girls. I've seen this comment of yours more than once. And I think it would be more practical for you to stop worrying what the *"nasty looking guys" are doing. You need to understand that girls don't have a title of ownership labeled on their foreheads. In other words.....women are not property. Perhaps these girls are genuinely attracted to some quality that the "Nasty looking guys" possess. Or.....later on....they might stop liking these guys if they turn out to be desperate jerks.
If you want somebody to like you....then you need to be confident.....and you need to be yourself. And this goes for both genders.
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Smile? Err...armed militants attacked chad. We are waiting for the Chadian army to cross the border and attack us. I am looking forward to being evacuated while being bombed. :D
^ Smile! Atleast u're pics would turn-out nice!
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Pics? What pics?
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^Firstly Gina......Check R.V for me shz counter-acting me agsint your flatterry tips and its workin.
Secondly....But what if the Guy has the skill of Veiling his chipkooness as interractions you would find useful and does it with with Confidence
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The thing u seem to love
R.V, I meant from my comment, that everyone should sometimes accept other peoples views as useful/alternative solutions/reactions to a situation, additionally to our own.
Conversly there are times there are when somebodies suggestion/comments are clearly right/wrong and it should be indicated.
And gosh...you girls are so confusing...looks like half of u dont even know what u want yourself.
Im Going..=Have a big Headche
Interviewing girls? omg Gina beyhosh!
CM kidhar thay!? Darfur to Dubai....;)
Amir_Pindi...they lied! Chipku men are annoying.. and so are the clingy ones.. they need to be in a mass grave!
Thank you, Gina!
Amir.....as I told you earlier these girls you interviewed could have been "pulling your leg." Or perhaps they may have **sincerely **advised that to get a girl you need to compliment/praise her............and forgot to mention the "normalcy clause" that too much of anything (even praise) can backfire.
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^ According to Gina it doesnt
^ According to Gina it doesnt
Look Amir.........you're confused about what Gina is saying. In one post she said that girls want to be pampered, flattered, etc. That was an exaggerated post that was meant to be humorous. However, in TWO posts, Gina has clearly stated that Chipku (over-flattery) is clearly NOT the way to go.
Gina never said that a guy should not flatter/praise a girl. She said that **OVER-DOING **the flattery (known as Chipku behavior) is not effective.
men get the impression that us women like them? When we don't.
Thanks you much much. Please come again
men are bad at picking signals. just remember that.