Look Amir.........you're confused about what Gina is saying. In one post she said that girls want to be pampered, flattered, etc. That was an exaggerated post that was meant to be humorous. However, in TWO posts, Gina has clearly stated that Chipku (over-flattery) is clearly NOT the way to go.
Gina never said that a guy should not flatter/praise a girl. She said that **OVER-DOING **the flattery (known as Chipku behavior) is not effective.
^ When I hear it from her mouth ill belive ya
2 Be Honest, I never thought the scientific phenomenon too-much flattery of girls exists.
R.V I acknowledge your sensible and worthy opnion.
But the Statisics shout that many a times this works!
Many Girls melt on praise and acknowledgemnt!
Nobody said that girls don't melt at praise/acknowledgment. What people are saying is that girls don't like** EXTREME** OVER-PRAISING and OVER-ACKNOWLEDGMENT (and that is what a chipkoo does).
2 Be Honest, I never thought the scientific phenomenon too-much flattery of girls exists.
amir_pindi, I never knew my word would be the last word for u flattered
What I said was girls LOVE to be praised, flattered, pampered and treated like royalty..as long as men do that, they're bearable! The minute u complain about food..etc.. we hate u!
Clingy and chipku mein are the worst of kind.. most female can't stand them! Guys say they need space? So do women.. so drop the "kidhar ja rahi ho?" "kahan thi" questions!
amir_pindi I don't know why u interviewed so many girls.. when I have the last word.. u cud've PM'ed me and asked like u do for everything else?
is that once he gets the attention from melting the girl ....He just doesnt use it to demonstrate the other qualities a girl needs!
Hes not tact-ful.
He forgets to show respect for the girl. A Big Turn-On.
Any way R.V U know u love da praise. All of u Live for it, and when u get it u know u dont wanna let go of the one giving it..
Larkiyah love men who make them feel important
Your **khush-fahmi **ONCE AGAIN.
Amir_Pindi......excessive praise/chipku behavior in a guy or girl for that matter...........has never impressed me. It turns me off and doesn't work whether it is done face-to-face, via emails, etc. It's a huge turn off. I wouldn't have wasted my time explaining this to you if I did not find it to be true. And this is based on experience..........it's a TURN OFF!
Chipku men are NOT successful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The girls who say they fell for a guy who was persistent...dont mean the guy was chipku. They mean he was consistent in his feelings for her throughout the process and didnt blink an eye at their shortcomings. Those qualities get appreciated and then rewarded with good behavior on the girls' part as well. Chipku gets you a phone call to the police, a report, maybe even a night in the lockup and a the inevitable phone call to your parents "apka beta humari beti ko bohot tang karraha hai aaj kal"
Washboard abs, a killer smile, dimples, great hair...all help. :)
has kindly put it into perspective for me. Thankyou Chandi Ji.
^ That what my version of chipkoo was. I apologize for the confusions created because of my different perception.
My verison of chipkoo is the guy who is persistant, and inspite getting many a time turned down, still perseveres in showing his concern, care, respect, flattery for the girl, and…eventually makes it.
Now Galz please dont deny this happens, plus on a large scale.
and Gina…hehe Thanx, for your openess and kindness.
Chipkoo— some galz have defined him as the one who is nosy and bossy…
But I thought chipku is the guy type who is the guy who is chasing and trying to pull a girl…
but isnt this ^ defintion of chikpu of a guys attitude* after* having pulled the gal.
men get the impression that us women like them? When we don't.
Why do men get so 'chupku'?
Why do men think they are the best thing since sliced bread?
Thanks you much much. Please come again
I've wondered that often. Talk kindly to a male and he often thinks that you want something from him, at least, that's my experience. Especially after I was divorced. Whenever I was kind and friendly towards a male, there were lies that I was interested in him romantically, so I stopped being kind and friendly towards males and now just am polite. And sometimes I tell them I am married or I have someone so if I am nice and friendly, there won't be lies again that I'm interested in them romantically.
You know, it is possible to like a male for his character and yet not at all being romantically interested in him. Even if you are divorced.
Akhiyon se goli maaray.. larki kamal dekho akhiyon se goli maaray!
If u're smiling at the waiter a guy thinks "yaar she's checking me out"
If u're looking at a traffic light a guy thinks "yaar she's following me"
If a girl asks for directions a guy thinks "uff she's interested in me, she just wants to talk to me!"
In other words..men suffer from this khush fehmi.. that anywhere a girl looks it's at THEM.. anything a girl utters it's for THEM. Let me just break it to u, it's not! IF we wanted to look at u, we would look at u directly.. not thru a waiter.. if we wanted to talk to we wudn't use directions as an excuse.
shukar hai that got cleared up!