I'm glad this is coming out into a nice discussion. I was starting to feel bad about the post!
It's difficult of admit "I am lonely so I spend my time online". When I was 16 I used to spend lots of time online on forums and and I would justify my time in just the same way RV did. It's great to give advise, but I think the problem comes when it's the only thing you do to help others...Giving advise is pretty easy, so thats why a lot of people can do it. Remember that some of the more famous advise givers like Ann landers and abby landers didn't have happy lives themselves. they fought with each other, had numerous divorces, etc.
Here's an activity for you to do at your won time that helped me out: Take a pen and paper out. And write your start time on GS (or other internet activites) whenever you go on it. And the end time. Calucalte the time you spend.
And then determine the time that you thinks is good to spend online with your virtual friends...one hour, two three, four, five....and so on? OF the time you spend on GS how much of it is spent on real life experiences per day? Do you spend the whole night GSing, and the day sleeping?With the only life experiences being the bare necessities- shower an brushing teeth, and saying good morning to mom and dad? HOnesty with yourself is important here. SO be honest.
Good luck PM and everyone trying to help themselves! stay strong!! Remember that as in everything in life moderation is the key! Love, Ruqi
PM my lost soul lol is she talking about you or me.
Actually i also noticed that you are funny and nice guy. I'm sure your neighbor's and family could use such a great guy like you! I liked amir's advise...go and find people at the masjids, or community events.... You are lonely because you don't have mnat friends in real life...not becausae you CAN"T make them. YOU CAN!!!!!!!!!!!!! NEVER SAY CAN"T!!! - sincerely, ruqi
Agree he is a nice and funny guy hunooz.
I can't make friends sigh.
back in the day when i was 14 or 15 there was this forum called soundvision. sort of this forum . And this lady would give good advise to everyone's thread. Everyone's thread. Anyways i had the oppurtunity to meet her in real life (she moved to my community with her family)...and she was so different...like online she came off so friendly, social, even popular, and in real life she was jsut really sullen, and lonely, no real friends, unmarried, jobless, living her with parents at 28..... it was wierd.
Couple years she ended up getting married and the divorced. And i found it interesting how one who gave so much advise could end up like that. You know? it was like two different personalities....i wonder how i am diffrent then in real life...
That's sad. Sometimes two different types of person can't make it work out.
Where were you choti. Didn't see you posting these days.
Are you ok or busy.