GJ, I don't think it's people's choices in raising their children that leads Mirch to refer to them how he does. Rather, it's their attitude towards him and his way of relating to his kids, which is condescending and offensive and involves the sin of backbiting. I think many of us are try to practice Islam sincerely and with a clear moral conscience, though inevitably we don't agree on everything. But as we've discussed in another post today, it's frustrating for those of us who are generally less strict or conservative to feel that some other Muslims will only show courtesy and respect for us when we do things exactly 'their way'.