Where are all the good guys?

Lifestyle Relationships
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Jesus Christ, the stories that have come up lately in this forum.

Where are the guys that don’t cuss in arguments with their wives?

Where are the guys that will not exclude their wife from their property ownership, and leave them nothing or very little after their death?

Where are the guys who appreciate the cleaning, cooking, childbirthing, childrearing that women do by being generous and nice to them, emotionally, physically AND financially. Lovely how men like to leave that last one out.

Where are the guys that don’t watch crude porn or don’t discuss women in nasty manners with their friends, and have some friggin RESPECT for women?

Where are the guys who will control their family, if their family tries to create problems for the couple, or who tries to get their son to abandon wife and children from childbirth and onwards? Who will ACTUALLY PAY for the birth of their own children? You know, doctors and nurses need to get paid, otherwise get lost and have your kid in a field, for crying out loud.

Where are the guys who will control their parents tongue when they give cheeky remarks to their DIL? Or who give the DIL a hard time because she wasn’t their niece or some other blood relative?

Where are the guys who don’t think that by 17, you should be married. Like in Nigeria, where people KNOW how to get married right. (Right…)

Friggin heck. I haven’t even hit the touchy issues yet. All the above should be common sense, so WHY are there so many desi horror stories.

You guys think I get my paranoia over desi men from either my home or previous bf’s (yeah, I wish I had a bf, maybe I wouldn’t be ON HERE ALL THE TIME SINCE HIGH SCHOOL!), or whatever. D6C wrote in my journal the other day when I was talking about Everybody Loves Raymond, that this show is the source of my angst.

NO. Silly people (don’t give me infarction points for that, now, Nami). I am paranoid because of the stories I hear from YOU GUYS. From THIS FORUM.

Apart from the trolls, some of this stuff is real for people, and it is friggin SCARY.

How the heck are you boys raised? Seriously? Man up and take some responsibility for your marriage and take good care of your wife. Don’t abuse her, don’t take her for granted, don’t talk to her with cuss words and insults, pay the doctors she sees because now you got her KNOCKED UP, when she gets fed up with you and ups and leaves - don’t deny seeing her and the kids for like 3 years before you realize you’ve been a moron.

Urgh.

How INSANE that in our culture, guys actually get away with this kind of thing? Imaan se, we need some serious meaty lawsuits to get these families straightened out…

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Re: Where are all the good guys?

Those guys are married, get it on with the Mrs and not on GS :D

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Why do you have that image up for your avatar?

:hoonh:

Urgh. Ew.

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Re: Where are all the good guys?

This is a forum where people come to for advice...and that's generally a situation where something BAD has happened and people need help. So that's why in nearly every post, you're going to read horror stories. This forum isn't an accurate representation of all desi men.

There are good ones out there. Lots of them. Have a little faith, PCG.

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Did you forget the one he had earlier? Far more revealing and provocative. What can we say? SINNER!

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they are out there matey, they just dont get mentioned enough. Either that, or they are out there trying to make a living for a better future so dont have time to post about their excellence

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1 in a million i guess

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That image? Well that was going to be my future wife. Then I found out it was a guy and for some odd reason....i was fascinated.

Anyway like Mistral said. This is a desi internet forum. Those who spend a lot of time here anyway have something wrong in the first place. A lot of real life communication and feelings of self-worth are being supplemented by the internet. Anyway I digress.

Basically like I said before, there are good guys out there. They are hard to find sure. But anything worth it is hard to find or get. Its just that women need to learn specifically Pakistani women, that there is no such thing as a perfect man. The perfect woman is Angelina Jolie.

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Which one? Brooke Burke or the artistic rendering of a D&D Character?

Oh yes also I live my life sin after sin :D

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Aww come here you . You know I like you :hugz:

Btw as for your topic . GS is just like Geo News . A happy title song attracts people , but inside its all a different ball game . Sharing sorrows is a common fact of life , but doesn’t paint the whole picture of a married life . Humans are humans , doesn’t matter if they are men or women . We all make mistakes and have good and bad habits . While choosing significant other its very important to realize that you won’t only be owning their good habits , but also the bad ones . Loving a person and living a person are two totally different experiences .

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Oh humble one…thought I’d quote you from your Annoying/Irritating Desis thread…“I spend enough time wasting my life away on this website as it is.” :hoonh:

Cuz you’ve met her right? So, you have a lot more than just her looks and acting skills to base this upon. And don’t give the adopting so many children example.

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Cupcake the fact that you remember all I say is touching truly it is. :p

And I still stand by my statement. There is most likely something definitely off of me because I do spend a good portion of time on this website.

Well she is a UN Ambassador. She does charity work. She is hot. She adopts needy children. She is hot. She did the Tomb Raider movies. She works actively in Pakistan to support the refugees. She is hot.

Hmmm....did I miss anything?

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Yeah, she is hot.

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Re: Where are all the good guys?

PCG have u ever thought about looking to non-desi Muslims as potential spouses?

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potential spouses hmmmm

then what do u think about kinetic partners ;)

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Everyone says relationships (husband & wife) are pre-written.. Can we still complain??

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This is not just a guy issue. not all girls are angels. Where are the girls that actually want to make a relationship with her in-laws instead of just pulling her husband away and doesn't expect her husband to abandon the people he's grown up with and who have supported him for years before he even knew her? Where are the girls who don't stop judging others for every little thing and gossiping every second? where are the girls who don't make a mountain out of a mole hill and aren't drama queens? Where are the girls who don't do passive-aggressive things just to feel a little bit of power or superiority? Girls can be just as bad, its just that it's not as blatant. And men don't really complain about it, so we don't hear about it.

I personally know of girls that have just made their husband's lives hell- one girl wanted to get her MD, her husband paid for her education, and at the end of 4 years, she ditched him for a classmate. A wealthy/spoiled girl married a well educated nice guy who wasn't as rich, and she would not let him or his family hear the end of it (common scenario- i know multiple in this situation). This particular one wouldn't even tell him the gender of their first child (he was waiting for a visa or something) until a few months later when he could see her in person- the guy would plead every day, asking about his baby. So evil comes in many forms. All of what you said is true, these are injustices. But lets not put all the blame on guys.

I think that the majority of people think they are doing what is in their mind "right". Imagine if you make money and your own sibling is a deadbeat- you still love them and can't live with yourself if they had to live on the street, even if it;s their own fault. its just that a husband wouldn't really care if their spouse gave them money, whereas a wife would. Sometimes we're just put in bad situations, between a rock and a hard place, and this world is just a test.

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u need glasses na :D
do u want m 2 hook u up with sum 1?
really I mean it na
I know sum really v nice n well rounded Pakistani guys

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lawsuits?????????????

u feed the lawyer phir kahan gaya lawsuit!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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All them Good Guys are short and Slightly Balding...........and rejected by all the girls looking for "Prince Charming"

simply lower your gaze a bit and you will find them every where!............:)