What do you do? You haven’t done anything wrong, you just happen to be an outgoing and enthusiastic person and your parents think you might be a little off the track, which you are not. Their piled up false assumptions force them to think that you are probably not the most truthworthy kid among the childern. Hence, your bhai/behen gets the permission regardless, except for yourself. It leaves you feeling uneasy, doesn’t it? On top of that, you know how cunningly your bhai/behen is tricking your parents into believing that whatever their most trusted child says is true yet it’s not. You can’t tell on your siblings for obvious reasons --they trust you!..
Doesn’t it piss you off that you hide absolutely nothing from your parents and they still don’t trust you?
How old are you dimagh? Just be patient, it could be the age range you're in. Between 13-20 I felt the same way as you described above. It felt as if my parents didn't believe a single word I said but as time went by and I got some sense they left me alone. It has come to a point where I live alone. So just relax, do listen to what they have to say and kill time.
hahaha my parents do the same with me, but i dont think its to do with trust.. my parents and siblings all think im naive and not a very good judge of character.. most of my decisions are made by listening to my heart.. well thats what they think, i think otherwise..
dont worry, im sure they trust u… :k:
p.s im the eldest and ive always been treated like the youngest when it comes to decision making
^ sighz I am 19, but it's not my age that matters. Why can't they just trust me for once? Everything I do is either not right or I am never going to succeed at it. My sister gets all the plus points, yet I am thought to be the biggest procrastinator around the house. I am so sick of this. I am trying my best to do things right. Why do they put me down every time?
I just shared my experience and what possibly could be one of the reasons. Maybe they do trust you, but they're your parents and they will do everything possible to make sure you are alright. may be they re just trying to make sure you're safe and it might not have anything to do with trust.
That’s not it! I know I am an idiot but may be they could just be a little appretiative. It has everything to do with trust -everything. When I want to go out, they tell me not to, because I might get lost! When I want to call my fiance, I shouldn’t because it’s not right, yet my sister can talk to her fiance for hours without being disturbed by someone. Even when I am typing up my assignment, I am said to be online chating or doing useless stuff.
It’s not even about decision making, it is solely about believing in someone to get things done. They make me feel like I am a loser… I get sarcastic comments/tuantings all the time from my sisters! WHY?
You are absolutely right! But how would you describe their you-can-do-it behaviour towards my sister? When it’s about me their reaction is “Don’t Bother”…
^ hahahaha that sooo reminds me of me except the fiance bit, i get to talk to him for however many hours
trust me, i bet ur parents secretly love u the most (yes, thats what i tell myself haha.. naa my mum admitted it to me)..
and dont call urself an idiot… i used to call myself a loser or dumbo infront of my parents and they used to get so offended… all they are doing is looknig out for u.
Im 25, and i STILL get picked on about this stuff.. the only difference is, i laff it off now and so do my parents.. before i uesd to get upset and chuck a tantrum.
my parents never trusted me, they think i cant take care of myself. and when they wont let me do something im like well its cus you dont trust me, and theyre like no we trust you, we just n blah blah which is their twisted messed up way of saying they dont trust me.
I don’t like it sadzz.. I hate it. If they want to look out for me, why can’t they just say it? Why does it have to be so confounding? Besides, my parents don’t even get offended when I call myself an idiot, they actually help me come up with better words to describe myself. .. I feel like I belong to mars than here..
reminds me of a similar thread i opened a year ago or two. lolz. i can understand ur frustration but know this, they do trust u. u'll understand when u get older. its not easy being parents.
.. I just read through your thread and it’s a little like my situation, but it’s still very different. You were pissed off because your BROTHER was given more freedom than you, which is very much predicted in every family. Guys are always given more freedom to do whatever the heck they want to do. In my case, we are all girls, so I don’t know how to compare it with your situation. It sucks anyway! ..
.. I feel like I belong to mars than here..
.. I just read through your thread and it’s a little like my situation, but it’s still very different. You were pissed off because your BROTHER was given more freedom than you, which is very much predicted in every family. Guys are always given more freedom to do whatever the heck they want to do. In my case, we are all girls, so I don’t know how to compare it with your situation. It sucks anyway! ..
I don’t think my family hates me 