Niksik: No the lady at the hospital does not complain openly to people… she is not the type to complain, but would keep it to herself.
I’m the one complaining because - I can easily see myself in that situation 
maybe I should stop complaining.
exactly , some women who are going through difficult times will paint the whole race of men with the same paint. They will forget how nicely their father treats their mother or how nicely their brothers treat their wives. May be that father is an exception or those brothers are angels and all other men of the world are bad , bad , they deserve to be treated badly. I am sure not each and every men in their family is a villain and if they look around them they will find some very good examples of nice men treating women nicely.
So correct so correct!
Niksik: No the lady at the hospital does not complain openly to people... she is not the type to complain, but would keep it to herself.
I'm the one complaining because - I can easily see myself in that situation :( maybe I should stop complaining. :(
Read my post #39
Re: When you are helpless (esp. in this country)
njmasti
I did not mean you specifically, I would never do that.
The thing is how do people grow and change, expectations and needs and perspectives change over the years, and its personality that factors in.
we can never have a crystal ball to know what would happen, but thats why trying to understand a person is so important.
communication is important, most ppl are not bad, but stuck in their ways not seeing other side and that must be discussed. some guys see the wife ans the carer, nurterer, and them being the bread earner and guard, and forget that there is much more to the roles and responsibilities of a husband and wife in a marriage.
communicate, talk it over, if what u want is 100 and what you think he is giving is zero, when you talk it over you may find out that he thinks he is giving 50 and you want 200, and the reality is that none of the perspectives are true. what u want to be at as that what you realistically and logically and sensibly expect is close to what he sensibly logically should be doing.
Re: When you are helpless (esp. in this country)
Niksik: yes I 'm sure he is proud... because now I am going to be adding more responsibilities on my shoulder - by going back to work...to supplement income (for luxuries? haha).
I hope my fears are all wrong. I hope if I'm disabled in anyways in life - then - he's there for me - just like I would give him my 100%.
Re: When you are helpless (esp. in this country)
btw I dont get men who want to be babied, when I am sick I just want to be left alone for the most part and be asked to do as little as possible :)
btw I dont get men who want to be babied, when I am sick I just want to be left alone for the most part and be asked to do as little as possible :)
oh no, not my hubby. He is a baby since the time he "feels" the flu bug entering the"residential" premise far far away!
lol - I must start out with nice warm soup n' bread!