Do you folks think physical compatibility also matters? I know this is not the sole constituent nor cant it must be, but well, it always sounds nice that both of them look “good” together". then what about those who may not make an ideal couple looks wise. I mean when a husband is very very ordinary looking and wife is stunning or when a very very handsome man may marry a very ordinary looking girl. Obviously people would fall in love with the soul of their mate, still what if they do not really “match outwardly”. Have you seen or heard stories about such successful couples? please share your views.
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O hell yea ! A daniel come to judgement :)
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You can have a hadsome looking couple who make a dysfuntional team of individuals. In the end you have to do what works for you. The same people (family/friends/acquaintances/strangers) are not going to have the responsibility of making your relationship work...regardless of how perfect or mismatched a pair they think you and your partner make in terms of looks.
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but how could you wake up with an ugly woman every day - Sorry I cant :@:
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totally agree with RV:)
i know a couple that outwardly look so totally wrong for each other, she's gorgeous-a kareena kapoor look alike and her guy isn't the most good looking but he's soooooooooo in love with her, he treats her so wonderfully and she takes care of him too, not arrogant about her looks. he lets her stay with her parents in her home country for 2 or 3 months every couple of yrs so he cares for her family as well b/c she's close to them.
plus even if it was an arranged marriage scenario, their personalities totally match, they're both outgoing and very social, total compatibility between them which total stranger wouldn't be able to tell when they first see and meet them.
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nopes.............. physical compatibility does not matter in marriages. understanding matters only........
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totally agree with RV:)
i know a couple that outwardly look so totally wrong for each other, she's gorgeous-a kareena kapoor look alike and her guy isn't the most good looking but he's soooooooooo in love with her, he treats her so wonderfully and she takes care of him too, not arrogant about her looks. he lets her stay with her parents in her home country for 2 or 3 months every couple of yrs so he cares for her family as well b/c she's close to them.
plus even if it was an arranged marriage scenario, their personalities totally match, they're both outgoing and very social, total compatibility between them which total stranger wouldn't be able to tell when they first see and meet them.
And dont you think because he is less good looking then her - so he makes some extra efforts to cover the gap :@:
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And dont you think because he is less good looking then her - so he makes some extra efforts to cover the gap :@:
whatcha mean by 'extra efforts"?
knowing his and her personalities really well, they would be down to earth and good people even if the physical looks were reversed. they were just raised by their parents to be that way. He treats all women in a very respectful way regardless of their looks and she does the same, it's like she's not aware of her beauty or it doesn't affect her in a negative way in how she conducts herself like how some beautiful women tend to be all arrogant and b*tchy, she's far from that, a very good person in her heart and so is he.
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sach mein? 
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Sounds like a match made in heaven 
Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears 
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i know the couple where husband is very good looking and wife is not even average looking looking (i don’t want to call her ugly) and husband is totally dewana of his wife… he is crazy about her, in fact girl wasn’t like him before marriage but he was crazy about her… he fought with his parents for the girl and now they are happily married and have very good understanding.
so conclusion is… understanding is important in marriage rather than looks
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i know the couple where husband is very good looking and wife is not even average looking looking (i don't want to call her ugly) and husband is totally dewana of his wife............. he is crazy about her, in fact girl wasn't like him before marriage but he was crazy about her........ he fought with his parents for the girl and now they are happily married and have very good understanding.
so conclusion is........... understanding is important in marriage rather than looks
She must have made him eat the owl meat ( ullo ka gohst ) - so now he acts like an Owl :D-
on a serious note - the ratio could be 60/40 understanding / looks ] but it aint 80/20 , as you all describing here :)
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i know the couple where husband is very good looking and wife is not even average looking looking (i don't want to call her ugly) and husband is totally dewana of his wife............. he is crazy about her, in fact girl wasn't like him before marriage but he was crazy about her........ he fought with his parents for the girl and now they are happily married and have very good understanding.
so conclusion is........... understanding is important in marriage rather than looks
wow, how is her personality though, she must be very special or very charming and he must have been raised in an incredibly great way to see past the physical. there are just some special men out there like that but they're rare........right?
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I came into this thread to complain about how my mother seems to think compatibility is only about physicality and here you are speaking of it in the same manner. argh
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physical compatability matters to those only who are either distantly related to the couple or are just acquaintances. Thus their comments won’t make much of a difference in the couple’s lives. It’s the couple that’s going to be living together and no, they won’t be staring at themselves in the mirror all day long thinking how good they look 
BUT, at the end of the day if they both thank Allah for having such a wonderful mental compatibility and making each other happy, not once would any of them think…‘but we don’t look good together’
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okay maybe the other half is too smart to have married a less attractive person so that they can feed their sense of superiority and be secured too, that their life partner will never get sick of such a beauty and wont look else where. what about that?
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wow, how is her personality though, she must be very special or very charming and he must have been raised in an incredibly great way to see past the physical. there are just some special men out there like that but they're rare........right?
her personality is OK but her nature is really good......... very talkative and chatter box........... may be he likes her friendly nature .............. i don't know but she is definitely a lucky girl MashaAllah.
and yes these type of men are rare............... right.
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LOL..........
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LOL..........
sounds creepily like a Shehryar Khan post :p
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sounds creepily like a Shehryar Khan post :p
LOL...again